It’s the beginning of a New Year, so how do you plan to “change” yourself? Have you written down a list of resolutions? Do you have a bunch of new goals? And, how is that going for you? If you’re like me, you have probably already run into problems. And, of course, no surprise there. I only made a few goals and I’ve already failed. I planned that I would wake up at 6 am from Monday to Friday, and 7 am on Saturday and Sunday. But I failed my first day. Yup…I set my clock for 6, when it went off, I rolled over, shut that pesky noise off and woke up an hour later. I was fairly angry at myself at first, and then reasoned that I must have needed that extra sleep, since I had gone back to sleep immediately.
What I didn’t do was let it ruin the rest of my day. You see, usually I’ll focus on the one thing I did “wrong”, and let it color my day gray. But, since becoming disabled (and it took that catastrophic event to make me treat myself better), I’ve realized how terribly I’ve treated myself for as long as I can remember. While I would tell others not to be so hard on themselves, I never was anything but hard on myself. Being rigid with what you expect of yourself is not helpful. Berating yourself for mistakes fulfills no purpose. What does help is to simply realize that sometimes we need to just get up, dust ourselves off, and go on with our day.
So, I want you to remember is that life is an ocean, everything changes, expectations are not written in stone, they are written in the sand at your feet, and you can be absolutely sure that the waves will sweep in and erase all those goals. The best thing to do is re-write, re-group and do the very best you can do. Be kind to yourself.