Thoughts and Prayers?


We’ve been hearing a lot (too much) about thoughts and prayers.  It’s a nice sentiment, but what do these thoughts and prayers actually do?  Do they help the grieving and the injured?  Do people stop grieving and get “better” once they know their government officials are sending them thoughts and prayers?  Do these kind sentiments help?

As anyone who has suffered grief and injury knows, thoughts and prayers do nothing to help.  Making sure others won’t suffer the same injury and grief would help, but since sending sentiments doesn’t change anything, there is no way they “help”.

Blaming video games, music and lyrics, even movies is ridiculous.  Other countries spend more money on more violent video games and they don’t have the same problems we do here in the U.S.  As a country we export all our music (along with the lyrics) all over the world, and the rest of the world doesn’t have the same mass murder problems.  And, last, but not least, our movies also are sent out to be viewed all over the world and again, the rates of mass murder is much higher in the U.S.


However, there is one BIG difference between the U.S. and the rest of the world.  Guess what that is?  Gun ownership – and the kind of gun ownership.  There is a difference between what kinds of guns may be owned, and how people can obtain them.  The conditions are much more stringent in the rest of the world than in the U.S.  Also, there is a limit on what kinds of guns may be obtained, along with the amount of ammo that can be bought.

But hey, let’s not discuss that, we’ll just send out our “thoughts and prayers”.  And then go and collect our bribes from the NRA.




Taking Care of Yourself


The hardest thing to do is to invest in taking care of yourself.  And, by investing I don’t mean just money, but time and effort.  As a mother, ever since I gave birth, the majority of my life has been spent in taking care of my children.  I remember having to have the babies in the bathroom with me when taking a shower, since my children seemed to need only small catnaps both day and night.  Therefore, I was usually passed out on what available surface there was during these teeny tiny little “naps” (notice the quotes).  So, as they grew, and got to be teenagers who loved to sleep, I began to sleep a little later.  But, I’ve since found out that anything over 5 or 6 hours makes me feel like throwing up, so I’ve gotten used to just getting up when I first wake up (instead of trying to go back to sleep) in order to work out.

That’s the first thing I do on a daily basis for myself.  Other than that, it’s mostly an effort.  I’ve just recently started getting my hair cut at a salon after going for 5 or 6 years without a haircut.  Who needs a haircut when you always wear your hair in a bun?  Every time my appointment comes around, I have to force myself to go.  The excuses are varied – it’s raining, there is snow, I don’t really have the money…  Seriously, it’s not expensive to get your hair cut every two months.  I’ve recently bought myself some face masks but using them again is an issue.  I seem to be looking for the “right” time to do so.


Eating properly is another issue.  I buy lots of fruit every week but seem to think that if I eat an orange, there won’t be enough for someone (the mythical someone) else to enjoy.  Of course, there is plenty of fruit at the end of the week, but I still think that I can’t eat much of it.

Taking care of yourself is an important part of your health and your well-being.  What do you do on a daily/weekly basis to take care of yourself?  Do you find it difficult to make time for you?  Let me know in the comments below.



Having Motivation and Positive Thoughts


Life can seem like a series of negative stuff thrown at you from out of the blue.  Or, it can seem like opportunities to start over, and learn new things.  How you look at it makes all the difference in the world.  Of course, while you are caught up in a life-changing event, it can be difficult to see it in a positive way.  But that is precisely when you do need all the positivity and motivation you can get.  Here are some quotes to help you out.  And, even if your life is going along swimmingly, positivity and motivation can always be welcomed!


Life Changes


There are as many ways to change your life as there are people. While one way will work for one person, it won’t work for another. Each of us is in charge of how our life goes, even when it doesn’t feel like that. Our reactions to what happens to us is often the only way we can change things. Each time something perceived as “bad” happens, we can control how we react. Just for an example, my sixty-year-old husband was laid off a few weeks ago. He could have decided that was it, and he wasn’t going to work anymore. That, of course would have been devastating, and we would have sunk into a mire of our own making. We owe a mortgage payment, a tractor payment, not to mention the usual utilities, etc. that go along with living. Instead he looked at where he was, and realized that being completely depressed wasn’t going to help. We needed to replace his phone, and laptop, since they were both company-owned. Which we did, immediately. Not so easy is replacing the company-owned truck, since our truck is a diesel-guzzling beast. However, we will be hopefully getting a certified pre-owned smaller truck with better gas-mileage soon. But, the best part of this was that because of the many contacts he has made over the years, he was hired with a new company within five days (including a weekend).

We were lucky. I know that we were lucky. Events turned out just right for us, and I know that they don’t turn out just right for everyone. My daughter graduated Magda Cum Laude from college in September and she is still looking for work. Luckily, she has her job creating content for a web-site that she’s had for a few years, but she would really like to find a full-time job. She looks, but the market is tough.

The big difference with this set-back was that we had an action plan, and I believe that action helped keep up my husband’s spirits. I didn’t let him sit around and be depressed. I helped him act in order to go forward. Sure, looking for a phone and laptop doesn’t sound like much, but it did keep him occupied. Having to find places to store all his tools, etc. that were in his truck also kept him busy. He went from working to sorting and storing, to planning and researching new phones and laptops. Action is necessary for change.


The end note is this: no matter how much you want to change, you have to put that want into action. Action is what changes you. Nothing else. So, decide how you want to change, and ACT!


Your Ship


I love this quote because it reminds me (and I do need reminding) that what is going on outside of me does not have to be reflected inside of me.  There is chaos in the world, and there is a lot of anger and hurt and division right now.  However, I can do what I can in order to change that by writing about it and by sending letters and signing petitions.  But, if I want to live a life that is not full of stress and worry, I really need to put up boundaries and leave it all outside my mind.

It’s taken me a long time to realize that, and I longer I try to put the focus on what I can do, and what I can’t do the more peaceful I feel.  No amount of brooding I do is going to change others.  Focus on what you can do, change what you can, and make yourself the best you can be.  Yes, be active with what you can do for the outside world, but don’t make yourself crazy by letting that be your only focus.  You can’t change the world, but you can influence and change your life.  Work on that, and hopefully your change will ripple outward and touch the rest of your world.

Words of Wisdom – 12 Things to Remember


I love these 12 statements.  All of them are true.  They apply to all of us.  If we were to read these every few days, think about them and put them into effect, our lives would be more efficient, happier, and more productive.

How much time do you spend worrying about yesterday, and/or other people’s opinions?  Do you let these things, that you can’t do anything about, ruin your today?  Or do you compare yourself to someone else?  Our lives are all different, we’re on different paths, and also different speeds.  What works for someone else, won’t necessarily work for you, and what works for you doesn’t for another person.

Most importantly, things change.  They don’t stay the same.  During difficult times this is a good thing to remember.  But, it’s also true of the good times.  Sometimes things just work, and sometimes they don’t – that’s life!

Are you too judgmental?  Remember, when you are negative and judging, it says much more about you than it does about the person you are judging.  Check your own behavior/habits before you judge another.

Overthinking (worrying) is something I excel at.  And yes, most of what I worry about doesn’t come to pass.  It also prevents me from accomplishing what I could be doing instead of overthinking things.  Be aware when you do this, and try to curtail it.  It doesn’t have any positive effect, and can lead to depression and anxiety.

Happiness doesn’t come from others, “things”, or “more”.  It comes from yourself.  This is one of the hardest things to remember.  Our society tells us from a young age that happiness can be bought, or found in another.  No, only you can make yourself happy!

Positivity comes from focusing on being positive.  Seriously, it’s that easy.  If you consciously reflect on the positive, it helps chase the negative away.  Which leads to the next thing on the list – sharing smiles.  Try to smile at other people.  The cashier, the mailman, the person next to you at work.  It doesn’t cost you a thing, and as science has proven, it makes you happier to simply smile.  Along with smiling, try being kind.  Ask others about themselves, be helpful.  Again, it doesn’t cost you anything, and leaves you with a positive feeling.

One of the hardest things to remember is that failure isn’t quitting.  If plan A doesn’t work, go to plan B.  Think of how long it took others to invent a new anything.  Think of all the failure that came before they finally got it right.  If they had quit, the steam engine, telescope, etc. etc. would never have been invented.  Failure is not quitting, stopping is quitting.  Don’t stop.

And, last, but not least, what you put out into the world comes back to you.  If you’re negative and judgmental, that’s what you’ll get back.  If you worry too much and don’t find happiness within you, you won’t be happy.  So, work on the positivity, the happiness, the kindness.  Focus on your goals.  Smile at others.  Your life will change for the better.


I Just Can’t…Republican Tax Bill


The Senate has voted to give itself the biggest tax break in years.  Yes, that’s right, while the rest of us will be paying more in taxes, the richest people get to pay less.  Not only that, they also voted for some pretty terrible things.  Don’t believe me?  If you’re on Medicare, your cancer treatment will no longer be paid for.  Since there is the excessively high cost of medicine in the U.S., and people simply cannot pay for it on their own, now if you’re on Medicare and you get cancer, the “family values” people are basically telling you to “just die already”.  People are going to lose their health care, since the help in paying for it is gone, also.  And, the price of health insurance is, of course, going to go up.


During the Reagan Administration, we were all introduced to this mythical idea that once the richest corporations got a tax break, they would “trickle down” their profits to the rest of us – you know, the lower echelons of society – the “workers”, if you will.  This “trickle down” would be accomplished with higher wages and a much better standard of living for most of society.  Has this worked?  Did it ever work?  Well, wages have been either stagnant, or have actually gone down ever since.  Now, at the same time, have prices been either stagnant, or gone down?  Oh, please, don’t be silly.  Of course not!  Now, those of us “workers” just get to work more jobs.  Remember, President Bush thought it was “fantastic” to work three jobs.  Of course, he himself never had to, but hey, isn’t it just great for you to need to!

I will be waiting with bated breath to see just how the corporations and top 1% of the country will “trickle down” their tax breaks to us this time.  Unfortunately though, I fear that I won’t live that long to do so.  After all, if I get sick (or if you do), neither one of us will be able to get health insurance, nor will we be able to afford medical care.  Oh well…there are a lot of us out here who will have to die before the rich will be affected.  And, after all, isn’t it all really just about them after all?  We’re just the supporting cast members.