If there is something that I don’t have, it’s confidence. Whether my lack of this attribute comes from never measuring up when I was a child, or from just simply never thinking I was all that, if there is one thing that I, and many other people lack, it’s confidence.
There are many times that a lack of confidence is simply ridiculous. From feeling that I can’t figure out a new recipe to being unsure of how to get somewhere that I’ve been before, it doesn’t take much to shake my confidence in myself. While I realize that one of the reasons for a lack of confidence is the simple fact that we tend to remember when someone else said something negative to us as opposed to remembering the positive things (yes, this is an actual thing, and it just goes to show you how ingrained negativity can be), it can still be a hard thing to overcome.
Before you let yourself get stymied by your lack of confidence, try to think of a few things. Have you done whatever it is before, and if so, how did it go? Did you live through it? Good, if you’re here then you obviously did. What could go wrong, and if that does go wrong what can you do to fix it? Lots of times if you look at the possible negatives, you realize that there are solutions, and/or that the negative is a silly possibility that probably won’t happen. Before GPS, I used to get lost almost every time I went somewhere new. Even though I was nervous to go anywhere outside of my comfort zone, I realized that I could always stop and ask someone for directions! And the best thing was that no one made fun of me, and everyone was always helpful. See, my problem had a solution that worked every time. I still deal with nerves every time I drive somewhere new, but it’s under control (thanks to GPS), but mostly because I make myself remember all the times the outcome was positive.
Once again, the solution to a negative is a positive. Confidence is the same way. Make yourself think of a situation where you were not confident but pushed through anyway, and you survived. Confidence is a muscle that you have to use. At the very least, learn the words to the song “I Have Confidence” from the musical “The Sound of Music”. I use the refrain all the time myself. Of course I don’t go around singing it out loud (not all the time, anyway), but repeating the words to yourself can do wonders. So, go out and believe in yourself!