Living with negative people is difficult. Heck, even talking to negative people can cause you to feel like life isn’t worth living. Especially with them. For a while now, I’ve been trying to work on myself, change the things that I can and move forward with my own life. However, when confronted consistently with someone whose goal is to make me feel less than, I find it difficult to remain positive. I have no idea why this is happening, and I’ve decided that I am not going to spend any more time on wondering what I could have possibly done wrong to cause this abusive behavior. Mostly because I am aware that it’s not just me that is suffering this abuse, and not one of the other people deserve it, either. This is just who this person is. Unfortunately, this is also a person who is a close family member that I apparently must live with.
I wish I had wonderful advice to give anyone else who is in this situation, but I don’t. I can tell you what it is that I’m doing to help cope. First of all, I’ve been concentrating on improving myself. I’ve been working on eating healthy, getting daily exercise, and working toward my goals. I’ve also been working on decreasing my blood pressure by meditating as well as I can, (it’s a work in progress); practicing Yoga; and saying daily affirmations. Self-worth is something that most of us have to work at, and right now my best way to help that is saying affirmations a couple of times a day. In fact, I’ve found that the most positive thing I can do is to say them before I fall asleep. That plants the positive in my mind so that it can work on my subconscious all night. I’m working on saying them throughout the day, but I am not as consistent as I probably should be. The other thing that I’ve been doing is to have as little reaction to the negative abuse as I can. This is hard, but it helps. If the negative person doesn’t get the reaction they desire, they will leave you alone. If they don’t, my solution is to hide in the bathroom.
If you are dealing with a highly negative person in your life, please let me know how you cope in the comments below. This is a difficult way to live, and I would love to hear how you manage.