What choices do we have when life takes an unexpected turn? Can we just wallow, or do we need to put the brakes on to avoid an even bigger wreck? Could we possibly ignore what’s happened and act like everything will be okay? Or do we truly have no choice and absolutely need to deal with what’s happened?
Some things can be ignored, but not all things. Obviously if you have a physical/medical aliment you really do need to deal with it. However, some people may feel the need to refuse to do anything, and let themselves just be…but if you do that, you will not get better and your life could end up going down the drain. Some people may decide to do that; however, this is not a way to find a positive outcome.
When I was in the hospital, I did get one call that I will never forget. A family member was telling me how terrible it was for him that I was numb from the waist down, unable to walk and incontinent – yes – this was terrible for him, not me, him. I was flabbergasted and had nothing to say in response. I hung up shortly thereafter.
Whenever I’m faced with such statements, I consider the source and ignore what’s been said. To tell the truth, I just tend to “get on with it”. My gut reaction is to do what I can, and focus on what I can do to get better. So, since I’ve been home for two weeks, I’ll tell you what I’ve been doing. I’ve been given a series of exercises by the physical and occupational therapists. There are three sets of exercises: balance (my balance is a little shaky at best); weights; and bands. Three times a week I do the balance and weights; and three times a week I do balance and bands. On Sundays I clean my bathroom and believe me, that’s a work-out in itself. I also walk laps every day, whether on my front porch, or around the first floor of my house. Since I just received my custom-made braces, I’ve added two more laps bringing the total up to 22. Just doing these exercises makes me tired. After all, I was lying in a hospital bed for almost three weeks and lost a fair amount of muscle. And, of course being unable to feel most of your legs and none of your feet makes balancing and walking an extreme sport!
I’m just letting you know that while being totally depressed by what I can no longer do, I’m trying to look at my life as it is now and make the best efforts that I can to get better. Obviously, I’m not all sunshine and roses, however, this is my life right now. The reality is that I wear diapers to bed and pull-ups with pads during the day. Life has gotten better since I’ve got myself on a bathroom schedule. Does it suck? Of course, it does! Have I figured out ways to make it better, yes!
The rest of my days are spent either going to various doctors, having fun and exciting tests done to me, or reading. My other major occupation is trying to figure out how to get stuff out of the refrigerator/cabinets and onto the table without spilling anything. Thank goodness walkers have baskets! I’ve also realized that I can cook – I made myself a squash, pepper, onion and rice dish for lunch the other day. I chopped, cooked and cleaned up after myself. Huge learning curve.
Whatever the circumstance is, there is usually something you can do to make it better. I’m working on strength, endurance and balance. And I’m not just talking about the physical aspects of these three things. Life in itself is a learning curve. And, it goes on. What we make of it is up to us.