Gritting Your Teeth & Getting on With It


I’ve been dealing with a lot of pain and over-all depression lately.  Every workout seems like the worst one so far.  I’ve been dragging myself out of bed in the morning and getting through my workouts by the skin of my teeth.  It hasn’t been fun…in fact it’s been terrible!  But I’ve worked out every morning in 2018, and I don’t want to stop.  So, what to do?

I don’t know.  I feel like I’m at the end of my rope, but I do get up and carry on.  It may not be “pretty”, but I’m getting it done.  The main thing that’s changed is that a family member said some very hurtful, nasty things to me just a few weeks ago, and those comments seem to have seeped into my marrow and stuck with me.  Emotional and verbal abuse will do that.  Initially I seemed okay, but as time has gone on the comments are running in a loop inside my head.  Of course, the best way to combat this is to consider the source.  This individual is not considered a person to take anything he says to heart.  His main purpose in life is to make others feel badly about themselves.  I am not the only person he does this to, and this is just what he does.  I can’t change him, but I can counteract these comments with what I know is true.


So I’m saying my affirmations twice daily (as opposed to only once a day), and focusing on my own stuff right now. I’m trying to replace the negative inside my mind with the positive.  And, I am stubbornly gritting my teeth and getting it done.  It’s a daily struggle but I’m doing it.  The worst thing would be to give up and let the depression take over.  So, if you’re in the same place, keep going.  Do your own thing, and try try try to remain positive.  Focus on you and what positive actions you can take.



Staying the Distance


Every day that I wake up, I have a battle with myself.  Wouldn’t it be okay if I just missed this one day of working out?  What difference would it make?  Those are not good thoughts – especially since I’ve gone so many days in a row, now.  Why would I want to jeopardize the good that I’ve been seeing?  Of course, I know why.  My brain doesn’t want to change, my body got really comfortable being overweight and out of shape.  It’s easier to stay on the same path, and change is hard.  Seeing as how staying on the chosen path can be difficult for many people, myself included, I thought that I could share some quotes on determination, motivation, and positivity today.  Enjoy!

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Life Changes


There are as many ways to change your life as there are people. While one way will work for one person, it won’t work for another. Each of us is in charge of how our life goes, even when it doesn’t feel like that. Our reactions to what happens to us is often the only way we can change things. Each time something perceived as “bad” happens, we can control how we react. Just for an example, my sixty-year-old husband was laid off a few weeks ago. He could have decided that was it, and he wasn’t going to work anymore. That, of course would have been devastating, and we would have sunk into a mire of our own making. We owe a mortgage payment, a tractor payment, not to mention the usual utilities, etc. that go along with living. Instead he looked at where he was, and realized that being completely depressed wasn’t going to help. We needed to replace his phone, and laptop, since they were both company-owned. Which we did, immediately. Not so easy is replacing the company-owned truck, since our truck is a diesel-guzzling beast. However, we will be hopefully getting a certified pre-owned smaller truck with better gas-mileage soon. But, the best part of this was that because of the many contacts he has made over the years, he was hired with a new company within five days (including a weekend).

We were lucky. I know that we were lucky. Events turned out just right for us, and I know that they don’t turn out just right for everyone. My daughter graduated Magda Cum Laude from college in September and she is still looking for work. Luckily, she has her job creating content for a web-site that she’s had for a few years, but she would really like to find a full-time job. She looks, but the market is tough.

The big difference with this set-back was that we had an action plan, and I believe that action helped keep up my husband’s spirits. I didn’t let him sit around and be depressed. I helped him act in order to go forward. Sure, looking for a phone and laptop doesn’t sound like much, but it did keep him occupied. Having to find places to store all his tools, etc. that were in his truck also kept him busy. He went from working to sorting and storing, to planning and researching new phones and laptops. Action is necessary for change.


The end note is this: no matter how much you want to change, you have to put that want into action. Action is what changes you. Nothing else. So, decide how you want to change, and ACT!



February Wrap-Up


This month has been more than a little strange.  Some of it was good strange – I made a new friend, and god knows that making a new friend “later” in life is not an easy thing to do.  So, that was a great positive!  However, the negative was that my husband was laid off from his job.  This was a huge blow, since his phone and laptop were both company-owned.  We immediately went and got him a new phone, and a new laptop.  So, now not only do we have no income, but we also have more bills to pay.  Yay us!

Hopefully he will get a new job soon, and maybe even a raise?  He hadn’t had a raise in about seven years, and we all know that the prices of things have just kept going up.  But at the same time wages have been stagnant for most of us.

As far as my February goals are concerned, I’ve worked-out every day, and done Yoga almost every day.  I have been doing a weekly dusting, so there is that!  I haven’t done any work on getting my certificate, nor have I worked too much on my fiction writing, organizing, financials or anything else.  This lay-off has kind of thrown a wrench into my stuff since I’ve been busy with my husband’s stuff.  So, that’s how my month has gone.  What about your February?  Let me know in the comments and we can encourage each other.



Some More Motivations for a Monday Morning


I thought that I’d share some motivational quotes for a Monday morning – because we all know we can never have enough encouragement!




Just Keep Going


The last few weeks or so have been filled with both emotional and physical difficulties.  I’ve been suffering with low-level depression for a while now, and the time of year is not really helping.  This is the “cabin fever” time of year, and my crankiness shows!  Luckily, we’ve had a few days of sun (and mud!) so that I’ve been able to turn my face to the sun and inhale it for all I’m worth.  So, there is that positive note.

Last week while working out my back seized up on itself, and decided to just give me a little reminder that yes, there are muscles there, and if they want to, they can hurt me!  It’s been a “bump in the road”, but as I lay on the floor looking up at the ceiling, I had a thought.  Why is it that when we have muscle spasms in our backs we’re told to stay still and give it time to heal, but when we get spasms in our legs we’re told to take it easy, but not to get off our feet?  So, since I get these little reminders every once in a while, I decided to get up off the floor and finish out my workout.  I did that, in a very controlled way, and have been doing my regular workouts every day since.  Have I injured my back further?  The answer is no, I haven’t.  However, I’ve noticed that it’s getting better much faster than it usually does when I stop working out.  I have been very careful, and I do not force anything.  My Sun Salutations are done very slowly, and carefully, since bending over pulls at those muscles.  I don’t push it, and just do what I can.  Have I been wrong in the past to just stop working out until my back feels better?  Well, from how quickly I seem to be coming back (pun!) from this difficulty, I guess that I’d have to say that I was wrong to just stop.


One of things that I’ve learned from this little experiment is that I have rotten posture.  I’ve found that if I sit up nice and straight, my back is very happy.  It’s amazing to me how much I slouch.  I guess my mother was right after all!  How do you handle back problems?  Let me know in the comments below.


Your Ship


I love this quote because it reminds me (and I do need reminding) that what is going on outside of me does not have to be reflected inside of me.  There is chaos in the world, and there is a lot of anger and hurt and division right now.  However, I can do what I can in order to change that by writing about it and by sending letters and signing petitions.  But, if I want to live a life that is not full of stress and worry, I really need to put up boundaries and leave it all outside my mind.

It’s taken me a long time to realize that, and I longer I try to put the focus on what I can do, and what I can’t do the more peaceful I feel.  No amount of brooding I do is going to change others.  Focus on what you can do, change what you can, and make yourself the best you can be.  Yes, be active with what you can do for the outside world, but don’t make yourself crazy by letting that be your only focus.  You can’t change the world, but you can influence and change your life.  Work on that, and hopefully your change will ripple outward and touch the rest of your world.