Sexual Harassment

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I grew up in an environment where if a boy in fourth or fifth grade pushed, hit, or shoved a girl, that girl was told “oh, he likes you”, and he was not punished, or even reprimanded.  Of course, being me, my reaction to being pushed, hit and/or shoved was to usually do the same back.  Now, just guess as to who it was who got reprimanded.  Yes, it was me, since a girl was always expected to be nice, no matter what.  That’s what we were told, no matter what someone did to you, be nice.

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All this conditioning has a price.  That price follows us all our lives, and causes women to “put up” with verbal and sexual harassment without saying anything.  It also causes us to not speak up about other kinds of mistreatment – after all, who want to be known as a “bitch”.  Yes, this is another instance where we’ve allowed others to monitor our voices and behavior.

When I was young, it wasn’t unusual for me to be “felt up” while I was riding the bus, in an elevator, or in other situations.  Did I say anything?  Usually not, however, the spikes of my pumps got quite the workout.  I hope that I did plenty of damage to the offending man’s toes and/or insteps.  The fact of this harassing behavior, is of course, designed to make woman and girls to feel “less than”.  The list of behavior goes on and on: “ratings” based on our looks; verbal abuse telling us to “smile”, trying to force women and girls to interact with strange men – and threatening comments when these men are ignored; women and girls being reduced to just their body parts – the dehumanization of an entire gender.

The examples of rotten comments are too long to list.  However, my husband has told me in just the last few days that I chop wood “like a girl”; and I throw the Frisbee to the dog, “like a girl”.  In my head I thought – if you’re so much better at chopping wood, why the heck aren’t you doing it?

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These comments are considered “normal”, and often if a woman says anything she is considered to be a “bitch”, or a liar, or both.  When we stand up for our rights as human beings, we are told to shut up and be nice.  Being nice has gotten us things.  The biggest “thing” that being nice has gotten us is less wages than men.  Yay!  What a testament to being nice.  Look at the offensive comments that were made by men, about Hilary Clinton when she ran for president.  The sad thing is that some of those same negative comments were also said by women.

Fifty-three percent of white women voted a known sexual predator into national office.  Really?  What the heck is wrong with you?  I will never understand people who vote against themselves.  And, this political party has proved itself to be the party of sexual predators.  Get your head on straight, women.  Together we will be an unstoppable force.  Stand together as one, and see the entire world change for the better.

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How the book Black Beauty made me who I am today

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When I was young, one of my favorite books was Black Beauty by Anna Sewell.  It wasn’t until I got it out of the library and read it to my children, that I realized that through some kind of osmosis I had made the entire novel a part of myself.  If someone had asked me why I felt the way I did regarding animals, I could not have answered.  But after I read this book to my children, I understood.  I got all my compassion and empathy from this one book.  It’s funny how a book can mold you into who you become.  Black Beauty, and to a lesser extent, all the A.A. Milne books did that to me.  Here are some quotes for you.

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It was after I read this book to my children that I fulfilled my childhood dream and became a vegetarian.  And, after that, I fulfilled my adult dream and became a vegan.  Some books just stay with you always and forever.

November Goals

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I can’t believe that it’s November already.  Where did the time go?   November is always NaNoWriMo time of year.  So, once again I’ll be attempting to write a book.  Last year I used the month to (mostly) finish my children’s book that I wrote for a very special young man, but this year, I’ll be rewriting my novel.  I’ve got a new plan for it, and intend to implement it.  I feel really good about my new ideas, and think this will really improve my novel.  However, this is the last time I’ll be doing a complete re-write.  So, this is the re-write to end all re-writes.  But of course, there is no pressure.

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Another goal is my on-going organization plan.  My desk and bedroom closet still need a re-vamp, so I’ve put them both on my list.  Another thing that I’d like to get done is to replace my very old shelf paper with new paper in my kitchen cabinets.  This is actually an old project that I’ve never even got started on.  If I just take it one shelf at a time I really think I could finish it by the end of the month.

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I don’t have a walk-in closet, but mine is definitely a “slam the door really fast” closet.

What are your goals for the month?  Are you going to be tackling a big goal, or a bunch of little ones?  Let me know in the comments below, and we can encourage each other.

 

No Electricity

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We had quite the rain and wind storm last night and have lost our electricity.  I’ve been lucky enough to nab an outlet at the library so thought that is would be my post for the day.  I really wish that I lived in a bigger town because then I’d have running water.  I miss that the most.   Well, guess I’ll just have to pass the time reading books!

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Cleaning Up the House!

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I made a lot of goals for the month of October, and I have fulfilled some of them.  My bathroom closets have been cleaned out and organized.  And I have finished one of my most dreaded tasks – the credenza in the dining room has been cleaned out and organized.  I have taken numerous bags full of old and useless “stuff” to the dump, and I’ve donated other “stuff” to the Swap Shop.  I’ve been able to donate some clothes that are too big (a first!), too.  However, the list does indeed go on and on.  There is much more to do, and so November will be another dumping and organizing month.

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I am feeling a little more optimistic, since there are more organized areas in my house to stand and admire.  Yes, I really do that, I open a closet door and tell myself how much better it looks now!  But, I can always find room to improve.  And, there is still so much more to do!

We are coming up on another NaNoWriMo in November, and I will once again be writing.  Also, I have been taking steps to obtain my coaching certificate.  So, there is that.  How are you doing with your October goals?  Let me know in the comments below.

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My organized dining room!