Taking Care of Yourself


The hardest thing to do is to invest in taking care of yourself.  And, by investing I don’t mean just money, but time and effort.  As a mother, ever since I gave birth, the majority of my life has been spent in taking care of my children.  I remember having to have the babies in the bathroom with me when taking a shower, since my children seemed to need only small catnaps both day and night.  Therefore, I was usually passed out on what available surface there was during these teeny tiny little “naps” (notice the quotes).  So, as they grew, and got to be teenagers who loved to sleep, I began to sleep a little later.  But, I’ve since found out that anything over 5 or 6 hours makes me feel like throwing up, so I’ve gotten used to just getting up when I first wake up (instead of trying to go back to sleep) in order to work out.

That’s the first thing I do on a daily basis for myself.  Other than that, it’s mostly an effort.  I’ve just recently started getting my hair cut at a salon after going for 5 or 6 years without a haircut.  Who needs a haircut when you always wear your hair in a bun?  Every time my appointment comes around, I have to force myself to go.  The excuses are varied – it’s raining, there is snow, I don’t really have the money…  Seriously, it’s not expensive to get your hair cut every two months.  I’ve recently bought myself some face masks but using them again is an issue.  I seem to be looking for the “right” time to do so.


Eating properly is another issue.  I buy lots of fruit every week but seem to think that if I eat an orange, there won’t be enough for someone (the mythical someone) else to enjoy.  Of course, there is plenty of fruit at the end of the week, but I still think that I can’t eat much of it.

Taking care of yourself is an important part of your health and your well-being.  What do you do on a daily/weekly basis to take care of yourself?  Do you find it difficult to make time for you?  Let me know in the comments below.




Staying the Distance


Every day that I wake up, I have a battle with myself.  Wouldn’t it be okay if I just missed this one day of working out?  What difference would it make?  Those are not good thoughts – especially since I’ve gone so many days in a row, now.  Why would I want to jeopardize the good that I’ve been seeing?  Of course, I know why.  My brain doesn’t want to change, my body got really comfortable being overweight and out of shape.  It’s easier to stay on the same path, and change is hard.  Seeing as how staying on the chosen path can be difficult for many people, myself included, I thought that I could share some quotes on determination, motivation, and positivity today.  Enjoy!

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March Goals


March is kind of a weird month.  We have snow, mud, cold weather and sometimes warmer temperatures to contend with.  It’s the month where we’re all done with winter, but it’s not all done with us.  So, as I’m more than a little tired of making kindling and hauling wood, one of my goals this month will be to start my Spring Cleaning.  I know, the dreaded Spring Cleaning!  But we all know that it rears its ugly head right around this time.  My plan is to start upstairs with my bedroom and go on from there.  Since I still (always) have more stuff to get rid of, I will be doing that, too.


My other goals are to continue working out, work on my Certificate and website, and also get my novel printed out so I can have it read.  I just dropped out of my writer’s group because there was that one person who insisted the group was supposed to be all about her.  She monopolized every meeting, and I finally couldn’t deal with it.  My goal is to continue writing at least one fiction story (600 words or less) each month.  That’s a hard goal, since it requires you to be concise.  There’s just no room to fool around.  Tell the story and then you’re done!  I really like that, since I have a hard time with being concise.

So, those are my March goals.  What are yours? Let me know in the comments below, and we can encourage each other.


February Wrap-Up


This month has been more than a little strange.  Some of it was good strange – I made a new friend, and god knows that making a new friend “later” in life is not an easy thing to do.  So, that was a great positive!  However, the negative was that my husband was laid off from his job.  This was a huge blow, since his phone and laptop were both company-owned.  We immediately went and got him a new phone, and a new laptop.  So, now not only do we have no income, but we also have more bills to pay.  Yay us!

Hopefully he will get a new job soon, and maybe even a raise?  He hadn’t had a raise in about seven years, and we all know that the prices of things have just kept going up.  But at the same time wages have been stagnant for most of us.

As far as my February goals are concerned, I’ve worked-out every day, and done Yoga almost every day.  I have been doing a weekly dusting, so there is that!  I haven’t done any work on getting my certificate, nor have I worked too much on my fiction writing, organizing, financials or anything else.  This lay-off has kind of thrown a wrench into my stuff since I’ve been busy with my husband’s stuff.  So, that’s how my month has gone.  What about your February?  Let me know in the comments and we can encourage each other.



Religious Freedom Division in the Federal Health & Human Services Department


What in the heck is “religious freedom”, and what does it mean to your health?  Here is a definition of “religious freedom” from the people who want the legal right to “practice” it.

“… is the right to use religious beliefs as a license to discriminate, and to provide special protections for Christians that fly in the face of the First Amendment.”  https://newrepublic.com/article/140645/trump-republicans-redefining-religious-freedom-favor-christians

So, now that we have the definition down, what is going to happen to you, if you need to go to a health provider?  Well, the following may happen to you if you are the following:  the child of a gay couple who needs health care; a LGBTQ+ person in need of health care; another religion, including but not limited to: Muslim, Hindu, or something other than Christian.  How will you be denied care?  Well, if your health care provider does not “believe” in contraception, he/she need not offer it to you as part of your health insurance, because their beliefs are more important than your care.  The same holds true if you need the “morning after pill” regardless if that is because of rape, incest, or another reason – no need for you to take it, since an unwanted pregnancy is a “silver lining”, or even an “unexpected gift from God”.   Because this is the “belief” of the health provider, you don’t get a choice.  Another problem with this new law is that if a woman needs an abortion, and there are a variety of medical reasons for this, including a dead fetus, the hospital or doctor can deny them the choice, leaving them with a) having to endure an induced labor and a still birth; b) carrying a dead fetus and hopefully not dying herself due to a septic womb.

Another item to take note of here, this “religious freedom” is used to control women and their health decisions along with anyone who is not a cis man.  I don’t see anyone worrying about prescriptions for Viagra, or even prostate examinations.

However, the most interesting question is this – whose religion is it that we must worry about with this freedom of religion?  Is it only the Christian religion, or does this also include:  Hindu, Muslim, the Church of Satan?  Is there a line, and if so where is it?  This opens a huge legal can of worms, and it will be interesting to see where it leads.  I’ve left some links for you if you want to know more about this subject.






Your Ship


I love this quote because it reminds me (and I do need reminding) that what is going on outside of me does not have to be reflected inside of me.  There is chaos in the world, and there is a lot of anger and hurt and division right now.  However, I can do what I can in order to change that by writing about it and by sending letters and signing petitions.  But, if I want to live a life that is not full of stress and worry, I really need to put up boundaries and leave it all outside my mind.

It’s taken me a long time to realize that, and I longer I try to put the focus on what I can do, and what I can’t do the more peaceful I feel.  No amount of brooding I do is going to change others.  Focus on what you can do, change what you can, and make yourself the best you can be.  Yes, be active with what you can do for the outside world, but don’t make yourself crazy by letting that be your only focus.  You can’t change the world, but you can influence and change your life.  Work on that, and hopefully your change will ripple outward and touch the rest of your world.


Happy Valentine’s Day!


I hope you have a wonderful day!