Believe it or not, material possessions and other people do not make us happy. Sure, buying something new can give you a little “lift” in spirits, if that’s the way you think you should be happy. However, that lift never lasts, and then you’ve got to go out and get something new again. It’s a never-ending proposition and one that certainly will not bring you lasting happiness. The same holds true with collecting new people. When you look outside yourself for happiness, you will always be disappointed. Whatever lift you feel initially, will not last, and will often leave you feeling even more empty inside.
However, when we realize that the only happiness that lasts is the one we make ourselves, that is when we will truly be happy. Happiness really is an inside event. Only we can create our own happiness. How can this be done? First of all, you have to really know yourself. You need to spend some quiet time with yourself, and find out what might make you happy. Many times, unhappiness stems from not pursuing those things that really give meaning to our lives. If you want to change your life, what’s stopping you? Can you start small, and build from there? We have an unlimited capacity to improve our own lives, even in just the tiniest ways, and happiness will stem from there, if only we try.
By working on ourselves we can create our own happiness, and from there, we can change the world. How can our own happiness change the world? By bringing happiness into the world, we bring kindness to others, creating a new compassion for others. Your changes help transform the world you live in. It’s a pond with ripples radiating out into the rest of the pond where it eventually hits the shore and continues on from there.
As you know, I’ve been in the midst of changing my life for a while now. Sometimes it seems that for every step forward, I take two steps back. However, lately I’ve been feeling quite optimistic. Losing weight has been a great “kick-in-the-pants” for me. I’ve changed my eating and my exercising, and feel much better both physically and mentally. Of course, there have been days where I’ve felt besieged by life, but those days are far fewer than they were.
However, I’ve been having a hard time putting all the changes that I want to make together. It’s hard to fit everything into one day. My creative life is suffering a more than I’d like, and I’m not de-cluttering my house the way I thought I would. It’s hard to get much done with the hot weather (an excuse if I’ve ever heard one), but I also have lost a little motivation in regards to these aspects of change.
I think that my real issue is with organization. So, my not-so-new goal is going to be trying organize each day into blocks where I work on different things at specific times of the day. How do you organize your day in order to fulfill your goals? Let me know, if could use all the help I can get.
Self-acceptance seems almost impossible. However, that is the path to true happiness. Trying to please others in order to find happiness is doomed to fail. The only person you absolutely need to be accepted by is yourself.
Other people may only want you to be near them because of what they can “get” from you. They might only accept you for a variety of things that you offer; your looks, your generous nature or even your love of them. This is not true acceptance if it’s based upon conditions.
Accepting yourself can lead to all kinds of fabulous benefits. Once you become comfortable in your own skin, accepting all that you have to offer, and all your own foibles, your life can literally change. Love yourself for who you are, faults and all. It’s what makes you unique and wonderful. Be yourself!
Positivity is a mind-set that is hard to maintain in a negative world. Every day there are many new injustices to deal with, so how does a person keep themselves positive? This is a question that I’ve been pondering over for quite some time. I’m not very good at doing this myself, but here are a few of the things that I feel help.
Number one is that I exercise. Endorphins are wonderful things. As a person who is just this side of depressed, I find that doing something physical every single day is a must for my mental health.
Another important thing is that I take St. John’s Wort. I know that it doesn’t work for everyone, however, I have found benefits to taking it every day.
I have also found that it helps when I try to do yoga every day. I’m not good at it, I won’t be posting photos of myself doing any positions on social media. I haven’t ever taken a yoga class. However, I do Sun Salutation almost every day both as a meditation, and a stretch. Good stuff and I highly recommend doing it. If there is one thing we all need to do is stretch and calm down. This is most helpful.
And, finally, the last thing that I do is that I try to work on my goals every single day. I set goals for the week on Sundays, and try to get most of them done by Saturday. The more goals I accomplish, the more positive I feel.
Share your ideas on remaining positive. Maybe you’ve got some wonderful things I could add to my list.
Sometimes we are so busy reacting to the things that life throws at us, that we look around and realize that we haven’t so much as “made” our own lives, instead we’ve had them thrown at us. Instead of setting goals, and taking the appropriate steps to reach those goals, we’ve simply been reacting to whatever has come our way. While this is a fairly normal thing, it’s not the best thing. Simply reacting doesn’t promote a happy, healthy lifestyle.
So, here is the thing. Take some time out of your busy life, and ask yourself if you are happy. Do you feel fulfilled in your job and in your life? Is there something else that you’d rather have? If you find that at your core you are not happy, then carve out some time for you to be quiet with your own thoughts. What can you do right away to change something that you don’t like? If you’re in a situation not of your making, but you need to stay there for some reason or another – money, marriage, bad job market; how can you change what you are doing to make it more pleasant for you. If you hate your job but can’t leave due to financial issues, is there something you can do to make it more interesting/pleasant. Maybe you are not actually bored with your job, maybe it’s something about your life. Whatever it is, can you change yourself to improve the situation? Sometimes frustration with ourselves is at the core of our larger unhappiness.
Whatever it is that you’ve found out, now is the time to decide to take action to change your life. Make a goal and plan action steps to get there. Once you begin working toward a goal, you’ll be amazed at how much happier you are.
My daughter and I finally went to see this movie the other day, and I must say that I was thrilled. I have never read comic books, so my only background for Wonder Woman was that of the 1970’s TV show staring Lynda Carter, so I went into the movie with no preconceived notions.
I have to say that I loved this movie. What a tribute to “female power”. I loved that first and foremost, Diana Prince, along with the rest of the Amazons, both looked like a woman who could fight, and fought like a hardened warrior. These were not super skinny women, these were extremely fit women who could take care of themselves. I also loved the way that Diana Prince walked. She strode with all the confidence in the world. That confidence was breathtaking, and I must say that I want some of that!
I don’t want to give too much away for those of you who haven’t seen it yet, but I loved the movie. In the realm of “power women” movies this is the best so far. I encourage you to watch this, just to see what a confident woman looks like!
Well, summer has finally shown up! It brought along all its heat and humidity, which I for one could do without. Since it’s here, I’ve decided to set some goals for the next few months, and see how many of them I can accomplish. While I am still battling depression and all-over hopelessness, I’m expecting that positive action will help counter-act my depression.
So, here are my goals for the summer: get my children’s book finished (this includes the illustrations); make curtains for my house; start throwing “stuff” away/give away; finish my home-study program; work on my novel; write stories and exercise.
Just a little set of goals. Now, I’ve got to set-up weekly steps to take so that I can actually get some progress on these. Do you have goals for the summer? Let me know how you plan on accomplishing them, and how you’re doing with them. Let’s encourage each other.