Honoring Promises

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I had a wonderful friend who was roughly 40 years older than I am.  Her name was Millie and she lived across the street from me.  A few years after I met her she became my unofficial mother due to family problems.

Millie was always there with solutions to issues, a shoulder to cry on, or most importantly, a good story and a laugh.  My children loved to go visit Millie to “help” her with her chores, read, or just be with her.  She was a special person, and the closest thing to a grandmother they had.  We often talked books, characters and plots.  She was an avid reader also, and we were always comparing books and authors.  Eventually Millie became very sick with ALS, and died.  Since she was a fan of Sue Grafton’s Alphabet Series, one of her regrets was that she wouldn’t live long enough to finish the series.  Since her children didn’t read, she wanted me to read the entire “Kinsey Series” as she called it as a remembrance to her.

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This task took me longer than I’d like to think about to complete.  I was always looking for ways to avoid it.  For one thing, I’d have to completely understand that she was gone, and not just away at the hospital, and this was something that took me a long time to get through.  For another thing, Sue Grafton hadn’t finished the series, and not only that, she was taking a long time to do so.  Finally, about two years or so ago, I decided I’d start the series and read it over a period of time, planning on finishing whenever the last novel was published.  This was not to be, since as all of us Sue Grafton fans know, the alphabet ends at “Y”.  (For those of you who don’t read Sue Grafton, she died in 2017 from cancer without finishing her series.)  So, for now, we’re all left wondering what did become of Kinsey Millhone?  I’ve put my imagination to work and come up with a few theories, but the truth is, we probably never will know.

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Honoring promises is important.  One reason for my not doing this sooner was fear that if I did finish, my memories of Millie would fade.  Yes, that is nonsensical, I know.  But, once I started the series, I was so glad.  The character of Kinsey Millhone has been an exciting one to get to know.  She’s added a lot to my life, and I often think about her.  Not only does Sue Grafton live on, but my wonderful friend and surrogate mother lives on as well.  Thank you, Millie, for this last gift.

 

 

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A Positive Outlook

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If you tend to dwell in negativity that is all that you will find.  Looking for the best in life will force you to find it.  We do tend to find what it is that we’re looking for, after all.  I know this can be difficult (I too have spent way too much time in negativity), but remember, if you change your focus, you can change your life.

When times are hard, look at what is going right and build positivity from there.  Life is never just one thing.  Positive and negative both surround us, but if you focus on the good things it will give you the strength to overcome the negative.

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Alcohol and You

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We all know that alcohol consumption is big business.  Many t.v. shows seem to “push” drinking by having the characters drink when they come home from work, Madame Secretary and House of Cards come to mind here.  Being me, this has always made me uncomfortable.  I didn’t grow up in a drinking family…in fact, we only had some wine at holiday dinners. One memorial night, my Dad partook too much and was extraordinarily sick for two days.  This of course, turned me into a skeptic regarding the joys of drinking.  I later learned that my initial thoughts were correct.  And, since alcohol is a depressant I tend to drink not at all.  However, I’ve been told by many that the health benefits out way the negative impacts, and, of course, the old “everything in moderation” attitude.  I don’t know about that, there are plenty of things that I wouldn’t do, even in “moderation”.

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However, a recently published study shows that alcohol consumption leads to health problems.  After studying the results of hundreds of studies, researchers concluded that alcohol consummation was the seventh leading risk factor in death.  The more you drink, the higher your risk factor rises for many diseases, including cancer, tuberculosis, strokes, heart disease, along with diabetes, and other diseases.  I’ve left the link to the study below.

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While there are many out there who are saying that the research is flawed, this is not the first study that has stated the there is no amount of alcohol use that is “good” for you.  I’ve also left a link to a report regarding money and “scientific” research into the benefits of alcohol.  Like all money-making endeavors, follow who paid for the study, and you will find out who stands to benefit from a specific outcome.

https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(18)31310-2/fulltext#seccestitle70

https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2018/3/21/17139036/health-effects-alcohol-moderate-drinking-nih

 

 

Never Make Yourself Smaller

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Don’t allow other people to make you smaller or “less than” what you are.  It’s so easy to make yourself smaller in order for someone else, who you love, to feel better about themselves.  After all we tell ourselves, it’s because we love them that we become smaller.  Why shouldn’t we help someone we love feel better about themselves?

However, it’s not up to us to become smaller, “less than”, to make someone else feel larger.  Our beliefs in ourselves matter also.  If someone insists that you need to be smaller, it’s a large indicator that they really don’t have your best interests at heart.  It’s not up to us to be “less than” so someone else can feel “more than”.  A true friend will celebrate who and what you are, not make you feel smaller.  Someone who professes to love you will never ask you to make yourself smaller.  No matter how difficult, be true to who you are.

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September Goals

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Since I fell (okay, jumped) off the “goal train” in August, I really want to do better this month.  So, with no further ado, here is a list of my goals for this month.

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  1. Continue working out hitting the 18 mile per week goal.
  2. Daily haiku’s and photos.
  3. One 600-word story.
  4. Keep reading my Neuro Linguistic book.
  5. Work on my book for children.
  6. Begin re-organizing and fall cleaning (weather permitting).
  7. Print out latest version of my novel.

Okay, I think that’s all for the month.  How are your goal achievements going?

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2018 Summer Heat Wave

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This summer has been unbearable in New England.  The humidity levels have been outrageous, we have had day after day of unexpected torrential downpours that are reminiscent of downpours in Florida.  Since there are many people who don’t have air conditioning (my family included) life has been something to be endured.

So, since I don’t have t.v., and my newspaper is often not delivered, I decided to see just what in the heck is going on.  Unfortunately, the news is dire.  Get ready for more and more of this.  There have been record heat recorded all over the world.  Heat waves that are over and above anything seen before.  Not only that, but we’ve had drought and wildfires all over also, not just in the U.S., but also Sweden (!).

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I suggest that we start doing something about this.  Extreme weather will be on its way also…hurricanes, etc. etc.  Are you hurricane ready?  I know I’m not.  How have you been coping with the heat?  I’ve been standing in an ice-cold shower before bed every night.  During the day I’ve been reading while sitting in front of a fan.  Work-outs happen in the early morning, and it’s been over a week since I took a walk outside.  I’m dreaming of snow storms and the cold weather.  It can’t come fast enough for me!

 

https://www.cnn.com/2018/07/23/world/global-heatwaves-climate-change-wxc/index.html

https://insideclimatenews.org/news/27072018/summer-2018-heat-wave-wildfires-climate-change-evidence-crops-flooding-deaths-records-broken

 

Goals to Accomplish by Labor Day

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As you may have noticed, I’m not working on all my goals this summer.  I’ve got excuses up the yin-yang, but that’s what they are, excuses.  I know that but I seem to be addicted to them anyway.    This summer has been way too hot and humid for my poor little body, but I’ve been trying to do what I can.  Of course, there is a lot more I could do, but summer is for reading, right?

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So here are a few goals I want to accomplish before Labor Day.

  1. Continue to work out daily, and keep with the 18 miles walked per week.
  2. Start working on my children’s series.
  3. Continue organizing and getting my household in order.
  4. Finish the linguistic book.
  5. Work on certificate.

What are your goals for the rest of the summer season?  Have you all been able to go on vacation this summer?  There will be no vacation for us this year, since my husband just started this job in February, but I’m hopeful we’ll be able to go somewhere for a long weekend in March or April.  Let me know how you’re doing with your goals.  Let’s continue to encourage each other along our paths.

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