Believe it or not, material possessions and other people do not make us happy. Sure, buying something new can give you a little “lift” in spirits, if that’s the way you think you should be happy. However, that lift never lasts, and then you’ve got to go out and get something new again. It’s a never-ending proposition and one that certainly will not bring you lasting happiness. The same holds true with collecting new people. When you look outside yourself for happiness, you will always be disappointed. Whatever lift you feel initially, will not last, and will often leave you feeling even more empty inside.
However, when we realize that the only happiness that lasts is the one we make ourselves, that is when we will truly be happy. Happiness really is an inside event. Only we can create our own happiness. How can this be done? First of all, you have to really know yourself. You need to spend some quiet time with yourself, and find out what might make you happy. Many times, unhappiness stems from not pursuing those things that really give meaning to our lives. If you want to change your life, what’s stopping you? Can you start small, and build from there? We have an unlimited capacity to improve our own lives, even in just the tiniest ways, and happiness will stem from there, if only we try.
By working on ourselves we can create our own happiness, and from there, we can change the world. How can our own happiness change the world? By bringing happiness into the world, we bring kindness to others, creating a new compassion for others. Your changes help transform the world you live in. It’s a pond with ripples radiating out into the rest of the pond where it eventually hits the shore and continues on from there.
Self-acceptance seems almost impossible. However, that is the path to true happiness. Trying to please others in order to find happiness is doomed to fail. The only person you absolutely need to be accepted by is yourself.
Other people may only want you to be near them because of what they can “get” from you. They might only accept you for a variety of things that you offer; your looks, your generous nature or even your love of them. This is not true acceptance if it’s based upon conditions.
Accepting yourself can lead to all kinds of fabulous benefits. Once you become comfortable in your own skin, accepting all that you have to offer, and all your own foibles, your life can literally change. Love yourself for who you are, faults and all. It’s what makes you unique and wonderful. Be yourself!
Motivation – I’m just not feeling it, you know? However, I want to get my goals met, so how do I do that while feeling like this? I’ve written down my goals, and figured out my steps. Now, I’ve just got to move!
Self-sabotage is definitely related to your sense of self-worth. Do you want to improve your life? Yes, of course you do. Do you think that you are worth the work and effort that you need to put into this positive change? Probably not. Are you going to let that stop you? Well, that’s up to you, isn’t it?
Just as this quote says, either way that you think, you’re right. So, in my case, I just want to think that I can complete the goals I’ve set out to accomplish. So, with that thought, and not thoughts of sabotage, I’ll keep putting one foot in front of the other, and I hope that you do the same!
My daughter and I finally went to see this movie the other day, and I must say that I was thrilled. I have never read comic books, so my only background for Wonder Woman was that of the 1970’s TV show staring Lynda Carter, so I went into the movie with no preconceived notions.
I have to say that I loved this movie. What a tribute to “female power”. I loved that first and foremost, Diana Prince, along with the rest of the Amazons, both looked like a woman who could fight, and fought like a hardened warrior. These were not super skinny women, these were extremely fit women who could take care of themselves. I also loved the way that Diana Prince walked. She strode with all the confidence in the world. That confidence was breathtaking, and I must say that I want some of that!
I don’t want to give too much away for those of you who haven’t seen it yet, but I loved the movie. In the realm of “power women” movies this is the best so far. I encourage you to watch this, just to see what a confident woman looks like!
I’ve been writing about self-education for a long time. I truly believe that the more educated you are on a subject, the better off you are. Do you check out the reviews of a product before you buy it? How about ingredients on the side of a box at the grocery store? Do you know what most of those ingredients are? Are you the type to look something up if you don’t know? If you are, then you’re definitely ahead of the game.
Knowing what your buying and/or ingesting is a good thing. Finding about more about a disease you or a loved one may have is another good thing. Educating yourself is always wise. If you’ve got a long-term disease, keeping up-to-date on new ways to manage/deal with it is a great thing to do.
No one is going to take care of you. Self-care is one of my problems. I live I the land of denial at all times, and this has been a real challenge in my life. I’m really good at taking care of everyone else, but not so good at taking care of me. As a quick example of this, my underwear drawer is full of torn panties. I know what you’re thinking, but unfortunately, they were not torn in a fit of passion, they are just old. In my defense, I’m still losing weight and am waiting to drop some more to replace them with a hopefully smaller size.
Being your own advocate can be hard. This means that you have to take responsibility for yourself, whether it be at work, at home, in relationships or with your health. Being responsible is difficult. However, think of the benefits (besides great underwear), you can influence in your own life. Wouldn’t it be great to live the life you really want? This is what being your own advocate can achieve for you. Let me know what you do to advocate for yourself. Let’s see if we can inspire each other!
Changing your habits can be really difficult. Keeping at it can be the hardest thing to do. Forcing yourself to keep on changing your life takes a lot of determination. Here are some quotes to keep yourself on the path.
Mel Robbins has a video out about how motivation is garbage, which I’ve linked below. My initial reaction was wait, what!! It’s a fifty-minute interview so it is a little long, but I highly recommend watching it, as she has a lot of good information to give. In fact, I hope that people watch her videos since she’s really well informed, and is one the most engaging speakers I’ve seen.
Of course, the whole premise is that motivation doesn’t work, because motivation isn’t what gets you off your butt, action is. Which is the truth. We can all read motivational quotes until the sun goes down, but if we don’t actually do something the quotes will never help you. Personally, I find that the best way to motivate myself is to think of all the times I’ve done something that I really don’t want to do, and to think about how not doing it will wreck my number of days that I’ve already done it. This works really well with exercise and diet related goals.
Motivating oneself is difficult, since action is the crux of the problem. So, get off your butt and do whatever it is. Make that goals list, break it down into steps, and just start. Don’t wait until you feel like it – that, I’ve got to tell you, is never going to happen. You’re never going to feel like change because change is hard, it hurts and it’s difficult. Just do it!