Dreams are Soul’s Wishes

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What an interesting quote.  Do you think this is true?  What are your dreams – you know, those “crazy” ideas you have for living the life you desire – fulfilling your deepest wishes.  Do you feel that they are much too hard to attain, or have you slowly but surely been working on them all along?  I remember reading the story of a man who had always wanted to obtain a higher education, so he decided upon retirement that he was going to go to college, but couldn’t afford it.  His solution was to go anyway and audit the classes (this simply meant that he could do the work, but not receive any credit).  His friends gave him a hard time, telling him that he’d be too old when he finished, but his response was that he’d be that age anyway, so what difference would it make.  Some ten years later, he was still auditing various courses, doing the course work and passing every class.  The college finally gave him an honorary degree for his dedication to learning.  Needless to say, he was the same age he would have been anyway, only now he’d gotten the education he’d always wanted.  Life is to be lived, after all.

See, if someone really is courageous enough to follow through on their soul’s wishes, they are often able to find a way to fulfill them.  The problem, I have found, is finding the courage to follow through.  Turn your dreams into actions and fulfill your wishes!

 

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Never Make Yourself Smaller

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Don’t allow other people to make you smaller or “less than” what you are.  It’s so easy to make yourself smaller in order for someone else, who you love, to feel better about themselves.  After all we tell ourselves, it’s because we love them that we become smaller.  Why shouldn’t we help someone we love feel better about themselves?

However, it’s not up to us to become smaller, “less than”, to make someone else feel larger.  Our beliefs in ourselves matter also.  If someone insists that you need to be smaller, it’s a large indicator that they really don’t have your best interests at heart.  It’s not up to us to be “less than” so someone else can feel “more than”.  A true friend will celebrate who and what you are, not make you feel smaller.  Someone who professes to love you will never ask you to make yourself smaller.  No matter how difficult, be true to who you are.

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Quotes to Boost Your Self-Esteem

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This is simply to go along with my Monday post regarding self-esteem and goals.  So, here are some quotes to help you.

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How Your Self-esteem Affects Your Goals

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There are many reasons why people don’t manage to attain their goals.  Some people simply lose interest, others change their goals, but some of us may have self-esteem issues that make it difficult for us to reach the goals we set for ourselves.  Of course, when this happens, what little self-esteem we do have takes a hit, and attaining any goals we set then becomes that much more difficult.

Sometimes when we have low self-esteem we can either set goals that are too high, (perfection anyone?) or too low.  Setting the bar too low doesn’t really help with improving self-esteem since we denigrate whatever it is that we attained.  On the other hand, perfection never helped anyone ever.  I can get caught up in the perfection issue way too easily.  As a matter of fact, I’ve managed to sabotage myself nearly every time I’ve decided to start working out by insisting on getting up every morning at a certain time – no exceptions.  As a matter of fact, I really think that the only reason I’m still working out this time is because I allow myself to “sleep in” (if 6:00 am can be considered sleeping in).  By allowing myself an extra hour or hour-and-a-half of sleep once or twice a week, I’ve taken the perfection out of the mix.  And, I’m still getting up and working out.  Take that perfection!

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So, when you start your goal setting process ask yourself if your goal is based on perfection.  If it is, change that goal.  If it’s a goal that’s way too low, ask yourself if you want to keep it, attain it and then make the goal a little harder, or do you want to just set a slightly harder goal.  Being able to attain part one of a goal and then commit to part two may give you the self-esteem boost that you want.  By attaining goals, we improve our self-esteem, and that is a good thing!  I’ve left an interesting link for you to read below.

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/self-esteem-and-standards/

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Is Self-Care Selfish?

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As you know, I’ve been rising early in order to work-out.  Sometimes that means that I’m up at 4:30 a.m. since I’ve been doing most of my walking in the morning, in my basement with Denise Austin.  Why you may ask?  Well, our heat index has been 105° on more than one occasion.  So, the other day, I was minding my own business when I was informed by a family member that the very fact that I work-out is extremely selfish of me.  I was taking time and doing something for myself that should be spent doing something (anything) for the family.

There was something so shocking about this statement that I was at a loss for words.  After reflection on this I wonder, what should I be doing at 4:30 am?  Vacuuming?  Washing the floors?  Dusting?  The fact of the matter is, if I wasn’t working out, I’d be sleeping.  But, how come all my time is supposed to be “for the family”?  Aren’t we all adults here?

The definition of selfish is to be concerned exclusively with oneself, to the detriment of others.  I seriously do not think that making extra time in my day to exercise has anything to do with the detriment of other family members.  I still do everything that I was doing before I started working out every day, so this statement is patently untrue.  However, the purpose of his saying this was deliberately to undermine what I was doing.  I have seen positive changes this year, and that is what is bothering some people in my immediate family, not just this one individual.  When you start to change your life, some people may see this as a negative directed at them.  For their own reasons, they were happy with the status quo and now you’ve gone and changed yourself in certain ways.  This can be a problem, but remember, if you are changing yourself for your own reasons, they don’t get to say what you should or shouldn’t do.  (As long as what you’re doing involves only you).  So, self-care is not selfish.

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Motivations for a Hot Summer Week

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It’s really hard to work toward your goals when the heat index is going into the upper 90°’s and lower 100°’s.  I know this and am right there with you!  However, since I’ve been working toward some of my goals every day since January, and I don’t want to jeopardize my goals, here are a few motivations for me and for you.

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June Goals

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Here we are, into a new month already.  It kind of snuck up on me.  Apparently, I thought that the month of May was going to last forever.  Part of my confusion was due to the crazy weather that May brought – one day it just might be hot, but the next had us all wearing winter clothes again and having a fire to stay warm.  The month of May was not productive at all, and with the advent of a new month, I’m hoping to turn that all around.  Here are my goals, humble though they be:

  1. Finish Spring Cleaning – I’ve got the nastiest bits left, and just want it to be over!
  2. Work on my coaching – read some of the books that I’ve bought and get that certificate.
  3. Write more fiction. Work on my novel.
  4. More organizing – files to be gone through and filing to be done.
  5. Continue working out and add Tae Bo to the mix.
  6. Try to have some fun!

Have you made goals for the month?  Share if you’d like some encouragement.  May we all accomplish what we set out to do!

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