Since I really didn’t do so well on my November goals, I’m kind of stymied about setting goals for December. Maybe they should be just get through the month? December can be such a fraught time of year it would be easy to simply say that making it through the month would be a worthy goal. However, I do want to accomplish more than just that.
So, one goal is that I did join a writing group, so I’ll be needing to make sure that I write for my assignment, so that is a goal. Another goal is that I want to work on beginning to get my business set up, so I’ll be continuing with that, also.
As far as the big holiday, I really want to get my gifts bought and wrapped by December 15th this year. And, my final goal for December is that I want to get my act together so that I can go into 2018 with a fresh new outlook along was some healthy new habits. I’ll let you know more about the specifics as December moves forward.
What are your goals for December? Share them in the comments, and we can encourage each other as the month rolls on.
The definition of belittlement is to treat someone as less than. This is something that happens all day, every day to a lot of people. How do you treat your waitress? How about the cashier? It’s an easy, and apparently gratifying thing for many people to engage in. But, even though belittling others is designed to make you look superior to them, what does it really say about the person who engages in it? What I really want to talk about is how in your interpersonal relationships people really have to understand that just because someone is family, it doesn’t mean that the usual rules of engagement go out the window.
There is one person in my immediate family who has this habit of sitting and doodling wavy lines on a piece of paper whenever I open my mouth to say something. Needless to say, I don’t often speak when he is around. Instead, he speaks and I listen. My assumption is that my role in our relationship is to listen to him and keep my mouth shut. At least that is what our relationship has devolved to. Does this make me want to spend any time with him? No, of course not. However, whenever I get upset about his behavior, I remind myself that this way of behaving says a lot more about him than it does about me.
Being part of a community, no matter how large (or small), means that respect has to be shown as well as given. One person can’t insist on respect while at the same time denying it to others. There must be a mutual way of behaving, or any kind of communication will fail. Has this behavior been directed at you? Have you dealt with it, or have you just ignored it? I understand that when one is in an inferior position (such as a waitress or cashier) there is really nothing to do but ignore this behavior. However, when it occurs in a social (or family) relationship, how do you deal with it? Let me know in the comments below.
Changing things about your life can be hard. For every step forward, there are times that you feel you’ve gone back two steps. It’s hard to keep up the momentum, but the only way to succeed is to keep going. Here are a few quotes to keep you on your path.
Believe it or not, material possessions and other people do not make us happy. Sure, buying something new can give you a little “lift” in spirits, if that’s the way you think you should be happy. However, that lift never lasts, and then you’ve got to go out and get something new again. It’s a never-ending proposition and one that certainly will not bring you lasting happiness. The same holds true with collecting new people. When you look outside yourself for happiness, you will always be disappointed. Whatever lift you feel initially, will not last, and will often leave you feeling even more empty inside.
However, when we realize that the only happiness that lasts is the one we make ourselves, that is when we will truly be happy. Happiness really is an inside event. Only we can create our own happiness. How can this be done? First of all, you have to really know yourself. You need to spend some quiet time with yourself, and find out what might make you happy. Many times, unhappiness stems from not pursuing those things that really give meaning to our lives. If you want to change your life, what’s stopping you? Can you start small, and build from there? We have an unlimited capacity to improve our own lives, even in just the tiniest ways, and happiness will stem from there, if only we try.
By working on ourselves we can create our own happiness, and from there, we can change the world. How can our own happiness change the world? By bringing happiness into the world, we bring kindness to others, creating a new compassion for others. Your changes help transform the world you live in. It’s a pond with ripples radiating out into the rest of the pond where it eventually hits the shore and continues on from there.
Self-acceptance seems almost impossible. However, that is the path to true happiness. Trying to please others in order to find happiness is doomed to fail. The only person you absolutely need to be accepted by is yourself.
Other people may only want you to be near them because of what they can “get” from you. They might only accept you for a variety of things that you offer; your looks, your generous nature or even your love of them. This is not true acceptance if it’s based upon conditions.
Accepting yourself can lead to all kinds of fabulous benefits. Once you become comfortable in your own skin, accepting all that you have to offer, and all your own foibles, your life can literally change. Love yourself for who you are, faults and all. It’s what makes you unique and wonderful. Be yourself!
Motivation – I’m just not feeling it, you know? However, I want to get my goals met, so how do I do that while feeling like this? I’ve written down my goals, and figured out my steps. Now, I’ve just got to move!
Self-sabotage is definitely related to your sense of self-worth. Do you want to improve your life? Yes, of course you do. Do you think that you are worth the work and effort that you need to put into this positive change? Probably not. Are you going to let that stop you? Well, that’s up to you, isn’t it?
Just as this quote says, either way that you think, you’re right. So, in my case, I just want to think that I can complete the goals I’ve set out to accomplish. So, with that thought, and not thoughts of sabotage, I’ll keep putting one foot in front of the other, and I hope that you do the same!