Gritting Your Teeth & Getting on With It


I’ve been dealing with a lot of pain and over-all depression lately.  Every workout seems like the worst one so far.  I’ve been dragging myself out of bed in the morning and getting through my workouts by the skin of my teeth.  It hasn’t been fun…in fact it’s been terrible!  But I’ve worked out every morning in 2018, and I don’t want to stop.  So, what to do?

I don’t know.  I feel like I’m at the end of my rope, but I do get up and carry on.  It may not be “pretty”, but I’m getting it done.  The main thing that’s changed is that a family member said some very hurtful, nasty things to me just a few weeks ago, and those comments seem to have seeped into my marrow and stuck with me.  Emotional and verbal abuse will do that.  Initially I seemed okay, but as time has gone on the comments are running in a loop inside my head.  Of course, the best way to combat this is to consider the source.  This individual is not considered a person to take anything he says to heart.  His main purpose in life is to make others feel badly about themselves.  I am not the only person he does this to, and this is just what he does.  I can’t change him, but I can counteract these comments with what I know is true.


So I’m saying my affirmations twice daily (as opposed to only once a day), and focusing on my own stuff right now. I’m trying to replace the negative inside my mind with the positive.  And, I am stubbornly gritting my teeth and getting it done.  It’s a daily struggle but I’m doing it.  The worst thing would be to give up and let the depression take over.  So, if you’re in the same place, keep going.  Do your own thing, and try try try to remain positive.  Focus on you and what positive actions you can take.



Taking Care of Yourself


The hardest thing to do is to invest in taking care of yourself.  And, by investing I don’t mean just money, but time and effort.  As a mother, ever since I gave birth, the majority of my life has been spent in taking care of my children.  I remember having to have the babies in the bathroom with me when taking a shower, since my children seemed to need only small catnaps both day and night.  Therefore, I was usually passed out on what available surface there was during these teeny tiny little “naps” (notice the quotes).  So, as they grew, and got to be teenagers who loved to sleep, I began to sleep a little later.  But, I’ve since found out that anything over 5 or 6 hours makes me feel like throwing up, so I’ve gotten used to just getting up when I first wake up (instead of trying to go back to sleep) in order to work out.

That’s the first thing I do on a daily basis for myself.  Other than that, it’s mostly an effort.  I’ve just recently started getting my hair cut at a salon after going for 5 or 6 years without a haircut.  Who needs a haircut when you always wear your hair in a bun?  Every time my appointment comes around, I have to force myself to go.  The excuses are varied – it’s raining, there is snow, I don’t really have the money…  Seriously, it’s not expensive to get your hair cut every two months.  I’ve recently bought myself some face masks but using them again is an issue.  I seem to be looking for the “right” time to do so.


Eating properly is another issue.  I buy lots of fruit every week but seem to think that if I eat an orange, there won’t be enough for someone (the mythical someone) else to enjoy.  Of course, there is plenty of fruit at the end of the week, but I still think that I can’t eat much of it.

Taking care of yourself is an important part of your health and your well-being.  What do you do on a daily/weekly basis to take care of yourself?  Do you find it difficult to make time for you?  Let me know in the comments below.



Life Changes


There are as many ways to change your life as there are people. While one way will work for one person, it won’t work for another. Each of us is in charge of how our life goes, even when it doesn’t feel like that. Our reactions to what happens to us is often the only way we can change things. Each time something perceived as “bad” happens, we can control how we react. Just for an example, my sixty-year-old husband was laid off a few weeks ago. He could have decided that was it, and he wasn’t going to work anymore. That, of course would have been devastating, and we would have sunk into a mire of our own making. We owe a mortgage payment, a tractor payment, not to mention the usual utilities, etc. that go along with living. Instead he looked at where he was, and realized that being completely depressed wasn’t going to help. We needed to replace his phone, and laptop, since they were both company-owned. Which we did, immediately. Not so easy is replacing the company-owned truck, since our truck is a diesel-guzzling beast. However, we will be hopefully getting a certified pre-owned smaller truck with better gas-mileage soon. But, the best part of this was that because of the many contacts he has made over the years, he was hired with a new company within five days (including a weekend).

We were lucky. I know that we were lucky. Events turned out just right for us, and I know that they don’t turn out just right for everyone. My daughter graduated Magda Cum Laude from college in September and she is still looking for work. Luckily, she has her job creating content for a web-site that she’s had for a few years, but she would really like to find a full-time job. She looks, but the market is tough.

The big difference with this set-back was that we had an action plan, and I believe that action helped keep up my husband’s spirits. I didn’t let him sit around and be depressed. I helped him act in order to go forward. Sure, looking for a phone and laptop doesn’t sound like much, but it did keep him occupied. Having to find places to store all his tools, etc. that were in his truck also kept him busy. He went from working to sorting and storing, to planning and researching new phones and laptops. Action is necessary for change.


The end note is this: no matter how much you want to change, you have to put that want into action. Action is what changes you. Nothing else. So, decide how you want to change, and ACT!



February Wrap-Up


This month has been more than a little strange.  Some of it was good strange – I made a new friend, and god knows that making a new friend “later” in life is not an easy thing to do.  So, that was a great positive!  However, the negative was that my husband was laid off from his job.  This was a huge blow, since his phone and laptop were both company-owned.  We immediately went and got him a new phone, and a new laptop.  So, now not only do we have no income, but we also have more bills to pay.  Yay us!

Hopefully he will get a new job soon, and maybe even a raise?  He hadn’t had a raise in about seven years, and we all know that the prices of things have just kept going up.  But at the same time wages have been stagnant for most of us.

As far as my February goals are concerned, I’ve worked-out every day, and done Yoga almost every day.  I have been doing a weekly dusting, so there is that!  I haven’t done any work on getting my certificate, nor have I worked too much on my fiction writing, organizing, financials or anything else.  This lay-off has kind of thrown a wrench into my stuff since I’ve been busy with my husband’s stuff.  So, that’s how my month has gone.  What about your February?  Let me know in the comments and we can encourage each other.



Some More Motivations for a Monday Morning


I thought that I’d share some motivational quotes for a Monday morning – because we all know we can never have enough encouragement!




If You Can Be Anything….


No matter how crazy your life is, no matter how hurried, do one thing.  It’s simple, it doesn’t cost any money.  Be kind.  Smile, have a positive message for those you meet while you’re out and about in the world.  Just, be kind.




How are you doing with your Goals?


How are you doing with your 2018 goals?  Are you still focused on them, or have you already lost sight of the end zone?  Even though we’re barely into the new year, I know that some of us are struggling to keep going.  I’ll admit that the only thing that gets me up and out of bed to workout in the morning is the knowledge that I haven’t missed a day yet, and I don’t want it to be this morning that I miss.


Have you already accomplished some of your goals?  Or have you just been mulling them over?  Are there steps that you’ve taken to get you closer to attaining them?  Don’t let too much time pass before you get working on those goals you set.  But mostly, remember that every day is a new day.  We don’t need a Monday to start changing our lives, we only need to start!