Lately life has been a struggle. I’ve been moderately depressed for a while now, and have been thinking about how I can change my outlook. I really want to make my home a peaceful place that is both organized and homey. What I want is a place to recover from the outside world and find peace and a soothing atmosphere. While this sounds like a wonderful idea, some of the less peaceful aspects of my life have to do with the people whom I live with. When I came across the above quote, I realized that the only thing that I can actually do is to try to create the space I need/want, and see if it helps me.
I can’t change the energy that others emit, nor can I change their behavior/words/actions. I can only worry about what I do, how I do it, and create the space that I need. So, that’s what I’m going to do. I know that one of my goals for the month of November was to organize and de-clutter my living room and dining room so that’s where I am going to start this process.
How do you create peace in your life? Let me know if you have any ideas. Let’s help to create peace one space at a time.
One of the goals I wanted to accomplish in October was to de-clutter. While I have done some of that, there is a more that needs to be done. I’ve written creatively, but most of that has to do with my daily haiku project. I did manage to finish one 600-word story, so kudos to me. Unfortunately, working on my reading and studying for my business kind of went off the rails – no excuses… oh, believe me I have excuses, but seriously, no excuses. On the positive side I’ve worked out daily, so another goal accomplished – yay me!
Goals for November:
De-clutter dining room and living room.
One hour per day writing creatively.
Get Christmas gifts – no more of that running around like a lunatic in December.
Weekly menu planning.
Work on School and Website.
Have you made a list of your goals for the month? Let me know in the comments below and we can encourage each other over the course of this month.
The above quote is so important in many ways. From the time we are born we seek to please others. As children when our parents were happy than we were happy. Of course, pleasing others can be a wonderful thing. The feelings of joy we get from bringing happiness to others is like no other. But as with many things, this can be taken to the extreme thus causing us unhappiness while we seek to please another. Once we start putting others happiness above our own happiness on a consistent basis, we’ve crossed the line into ignoring ourselves and putting ourselves last, if our own happiness even makes it onto our list.
True lasting happiness come from within. No “other” can make us happy, just as we cannot bring true lasting happiness to another. Look within to find your own happiness.
On our journey through life, we’ll sometimes find other people who seem to have it all. To the outside world their lives look wonderful, and, we’ll think, well if we could just be them, life would be great. But the fact of the matter is, we have no idea if their lives are as great as we think they are…nor do we know if they are actually happy.
Instead of looking to others as a way to figure out how to be or how to live, each one of us needs to be who we are, not to copy someone else. Each one of us is an individual, and as such we’re one of a kind. There is no one else exactly like us in the world. That’s the way we were made, and that’s what makes the world so diverse and interesting.
So, okay, what’s my point? Don’t look to others to gain your confidence. Every day try to be a better you than you were yesterday. Take the time to figure out what you want, how you want to live, what you want to do. This life that you are living is yours, no one else’s, so try your best to live it the way you want. Dream about how you’d like your life to be, write those dreams down and set goals to achieve to bring those dreams to fruition. You can start by believing in yourself. Use a simple affirmation – “I believe in myself” to bring your confidence out of hiding. Say your own affirmations several times daily. Find yourself, be yourself.
As you know, there are times when life sucks. And, believe it or not, that’s actually okay. Life can’t be sunshine, roses and chocolate all the time. Because, if it was, would that sunshine feel as wonderful? Would the roses smell as sweet? Well, I can tell you from experience, chocolate tastes fantastic no matter what is happening, but I’m sure you catch my drift.
When life is hard, take a breath – or twenty – or a hundred, and stand up and just deal with it. Don’t put yourself down, don’t dwell on faulting someone (or yourself), just figure out a way to deal with it. Focus your energy on doing whatever you can control to make life better, and do it!
It’s important to speak out when there are injustices being committed. Right now, in the U.S. there are forces gathered against many of our rights as citizens. Not only are we treating asylum seekers as criminals, but we are allowing the murder of unarmed civilians be overly aggressive police. Racism and bigotry are running rampant, and an entire gender is being told to “sit down and shut up”.
Who are the perpetrators of this? For the most part it is angry white men. Whether they identify as “incel”, white supremacist, or simply Republican, the message is always the same. Whatever it is that they want, it’s so much more important than what you want/need. The rest of us, and yes, there are more of us than them, are being divided by race, gender and sexual orientation. It’s time to join hands and stand together.
If you believe in “liberty and justice for all”, do whatever you can with what you have. Sign petitions; write your congressperson; register to vote (if you haven’t done so); join a protest/march; give a donation to an organization that follows your own morals. Do what you can. But most importantly, do not be silent!