Today, my husband and I have been married for 31 years. Unbelievable, if you know what I mean. I’ve been married for far longer than I was not. If you believe me about my age, I was an extremely young bride – talk about robbing the cradle.
We’ve gotten to the point where people ask about how we managed to stay married all these years. My answer? For some of it he was working out-of-state, and even out-of-country. Was it easy? Of course not. When we had young children, there were “arguments” that occurred out on our front lawn that consisted of the pair of us yelling at the top of our lungs. I was even known to stand on the coffee table and whisper-scream since the kids were asleep upstairs. There was even one occasion when he was so angry that he pulled the screen door off its hinges. This was years ago, and we still don’t have a screen door.
However, now when we have disagreements neither one of us gets that upset. In fact, we each have our say, and then just continue on with our lives. Is that healthy? I don’t know, but it seems to work for us. There are things he does that absolutely drive me crazy, but I have just learned to accept them, since I’ve realized that in the long run he’s not going to change, and if you look at the over-all picture, they really aren’t all that important anyway. And, I know that there are things that I do that drive him crazy as well, but he doesn’t flip out over them either. In other words, we’ve learned to live together in a much more accepting manner.
Are there things that I wish he’d change? Of course…I wish he’d stop smoking and eat healthier food. Money is another issue that we’re working on. The number of shoes and boots that get left in my dining room and living room can drive me crazy, but every once in a while, I pick them all up, put them in the closet and have a shoe-free zone (for a very few days). Again, this is really not a huge deal in the larger scheme of things. I think that people just have to think about what they want to make a big deal about, decide if the upset is worth it, and then just carry on. Really, you have to accept who the person is. If you married with the idea that you would be able to change the other person, then you started your marriage from the wrong point of view. Love and accept each other. That’s all.
I’ve been feeling horribly sick for the past week-and-a-half. Part of that is the weather – one day it’s 85°, the next it’s 65°. So, my sinus issues are at play. Then again, there is the allergy issue and that’s just as bad. Last night I broke down and took a Benadryl. Usually that is the “magic” pill for me and the next day my allergies are gone. However, I woke up sneezing, coughing and feeling less than perfect.
I also seem to be in the midst of a Fibromyalgia flare the likes of which I’ve never seen. The body-aches, etc. are off the charts. I live with chronic pain on a daily basis, and have always been able to continue to function, and basically ignore what hurts for the most part. I take no medicines for pain, except for the occasional over-the-counter headache relief. But this, this is a new level of hell. I only hope that it’ll go away soon and leave me alone!
I can’t say that this week was so fantastic, however, it was a pretty good week. I’ve got some pictures of flowers to share from our visit to the Florence Griswold Museum. I also finally used my “new” steamer, so I’ll share that simple, easy “recipe”, if you can even call it that. And, best of all, I’ve gotten a new computer that so far I haven’t broken – yay me!
I just cut up some squash, zucchini, onions, peppers, broccoli and mushrooms and placed them into the steamer (we have a small one, so I did this a few times), which was already in a pot with an inch or so of boiling water, and steamed the veggies for about two and a half minutes. Then, I served them on quinoa and brown rice along with some garlic sauce that we had left over from our Chinese meal from the last time we ordered. You can use any veggies that you want. It was delicious, if I do say so myself!
The new Destiny add-on dropped this week, and yes, I did play it on Wednesday (the first day it was available). Fun, fun! I’m “such” a gamer.
I’m back to working on getting my coaching certificate now that I’ve got a computer. My goal had been September 30, but now I’m changing it to October 15, since I lost a full week of studying. Ah, computers – they’re great when they work!
Hope you found something to be happy about this week! Enjoy your weekend and be happy!
While watching Michael Moore’s Where to Invade Next I got to thinking about the state of education in the U.S. My state, Connecticut, just had a ruling handing down by the court that they have to do an over-haul the entire education system here, since the richest school districts were receiving the most in state aid, and the poorest ones were receiving the least. However, part of the ruling claimed that students with disabilities did not have to be educated. This of course is in direct opposition to the federal ruling known as the Disabilities Act.
Most people seem to think that creating privately run charter schools is the answer, but it is not. In fact, charter schools fail most tests at a higher rate than public schools. Also, charter school teachers do not have to be qualified teachers, their pay is less, and the schools dismiss any “troublesome” students. (I’ll be providing links in regards to the previous statements.)
While watching Moore’s documentary, I was struck by the education system practiced in Finland. There are no private schools; all public schools have the exact same programs, books and teaching methods. There is no such thing was needing to move into a “good” school district, since all schools are equal. Because the level of education is equal, the playing field for life is more level. Why can’t we do that here?
On Saturday, my daughter and I got to visit the Florence Griswold Museum. It was the one of the last days of their “Artists Garden: American Impressionism and the Garden Movement 1887 -1920” exhibition. Not only were they some of the nicest Impressionistic paintings I’ve seen, but the museum has also re-created Florence Griswold’s house and gardens. Florence operated a boarding house on the Lawrence River in Old Lyme, CT. She opened her doors to various artists who were enthralled with painting her gardens, the river and other notable locations in and near Old Lyme.
The results of these paintings can be appreciated both in the museum and in her home, where the artists painted the paneling on her walls to show their appreciation of her kindness. While Florence was not wealthy, she enjoyed a rich life by way of the life-long friendships she had with some of the most famous of American artists.
It was a peaceful place to visit, and we had a great time. We’d never been there before, but will be going back soon to see their next exhibit. It was such a nice day, seeing great art and walking the beautiful, quiet grounds. Days like that go way too fast, but here are some photos we took of the gardens. Enjoy!
I had a birthday this week and I have to admit, I had a tiny pity party. It revolved around the question “is this all there is”? I started thinking about all the things I haven’t done. This, of course, is a long list, and is guaranteed to make me depressed. Not that other things could also make me depressed – being another year older; feeling like an ancient old crone when I first get out of bed in the morning; realizing that I’ll probably never ride naked on the back of a motorcycle through the woods – you know, the normal, average everyday thoughts of someone who is getting older.
I’m kind of looking forward to this!
So, I decided that I had to do something proactive about my little pity party. I didn’t want it to go any further. I’m making a list of all the things I want to do before I get “too old” to do them. Then, I want to figure out which ones are truly feasible. To tell you the truth, I really don’t think that riding a motorcycle naked through the woods is going to happen. For one thing, I don’t have a motorcycle, for another, just think of all the obstacles I could get hit by.
After I finish with my actual list, I’m going to look at them one-by-one and figure out how I can make them happen. As always, moving forward is much better than looking back. I can’t change the past, but can influence my future.
For now, I’ll continue claiming to be ten years younger than I am. Remember, you’re only as old as you believe yourself to be!
Computers, as we all know, are wonderful wonderful pieces of equipment – when they work! On Sunday morning I turned my laptop on, noticed that it was a bit slow, but thought nothing of it. Then, after I plugged it in to charge, realized that it didn’t show it was charging, but it was also informing me that my 37% had 1,295 days and 25 minutes of charge left. Insane, I know!
So, thinking that this was a cord or battery issue, my daughter and I went to Staples where the very nice salesman told me to bring the laptop in so that he could check and see if it was a cord, battery or port issue. I went home right away and brought my laptop in so that the issue could get resolved as soon as possible. After two hours of working on it, with the cord plugged in, but no charging going on (but with 37% battery left and 1,295 days of battery left!) he couldn’t figure out what was going on. Since a diagnosis would cost $159, and the laptop was a refurbished one that only cost about $200.00, I’ve decided to buy a new one.
Looking at laptop reviews is just making me more and more frustrated. It seems that buying a new laptop is a lot like a crap-shoot. Sometimes you win, and sometimes you lose. With all the reviews that I’ve read, about 50% of the people love it, and the other 50% are less than pleased! What the heck is a consumer to do? I guess I’ll just go ahead and buy the one that looks like the best one for my needs and budget. I’ll let you know how it all turns out.