If you tend to dwell in negativity that is all that you will find. Looking for the best in life will force you to find it. We do tend to find what it is that we’re looking for, after all. I know this can be difficult (I too have spent way too much time in negativity), but remember, if you change your focus, you can change your life.
When times are hard, look at what is going right and build positivity from there. Life is never just one thing. Positive and negative both surround us, but if you focus on the good things it will give you the strength to overcome the negative.
Don’t allow other people to make you smaller or “less than” what you are. It’s so easy to make yourself smaller in order for someone else, who you love, to feel better about themselves. After all we tell ourselves, it’s because we love them that we become smaller. Why shouldn’t we help someone we love feel better about themselves?
However, it’s not up to us to become smaller, “less than”, to make someone else feel larger. Our beliefs in ourselves matter also. If someone insists that you need to be smaller, it’s a large indicator that they really don’t have your best interests at heart. It’s not up to us to be “less than” so someone else can feel “more than”. A true friend will celebrate who and what you are, not make you feel smaller. Someone who professes to love you will never ask you to make yourself smaller. No matter how difficult, be true to who you are.
Labor Day is just around the corner. Have you fulfilled all your summer dreams, or have you simply had a great summer of not accomplishing much? To tell the truth, I’m in the latter group, and have very few regrets, although I do know that my September is going to be much busier than my August. Creatively I wrote more than I initially thought, since I’ve been writing a haiku per day – a little project that I was under the mistaken impression would be relatively easy – hah! However, the best part of this project is that I’ve been taking a photo per haiku, which has been pretty fun. While I haven’t even touched my novel, I have had a lot of ideas, and have written a couple of 600-word short stories – which, again, is a whole lot harder than you would think.
So many books, so little time!
Other than that, my summer has been pretty much me sitting around with a book in my face. I haven’t gotten much done at all…however, now that maybe some cooler weather is on its way – I hope! – I will ramp back up and start getting more of my goals accomplished. I hope that you enjoy the last weekend of summer!
As you all know, this has been a summer of record highs all over the world. Basically, there have been fires on almost every continent this year, and just about everyone has suffered from the heat and humidity. As a person who really dislikes both heat and humidity, and does not have air conditioning, I’ve been surviving by getting my heavy work done in the morning, and sitting in front of a fan while reading in the afternoon and night. Much as I love to read, and I’ve been able to read a lot, but I’d prefer to be comfortable.
So, my belief that not only is that summer for reading, but every other season is for reading, too! I’ve gotten through a record number of books this summer thanks to the heatwave and humidity. What have you done to get yourself through this extremely hot and humid summer?
I just wanted to post this quote I found for those of you who are dealing with hyper-critical family members. One of the terrible things about being criticized for everything you do, is how it dismantles your sense of self. Remember when someone is belittling you, it says more about them then it does you. No matter how hard it may be, look within for your sense of self, stand tall, and even if you have to dance in the shadows, dance.
This is just a little reminder for you. Try not to fill your brain up with negativity. Even though negative thoughts are so easy, don’t be tempted to dwell on them. While we all know that it’s easier to think about how terrible a problem is, the only way to change it is to think of a solution.
While not every problem has a solution, sometimes the solution is to simply stop dwelling on the problem. In life, there are always going to be things that we can’t change. We can’t change someone else, so a solution is to stop dwelling on their behavior and think about something you can change – like not letting what they choose to do and say bother you.
Of course, this is hard – negativity (complaining, dwelling on situations) is so much easier than positivity, and finding a solution. Remember, it’s a process. Like anything, it will take you quite a while to focus your energy on what you can do. Put your thoughts toward positivity and see how it changes your life.