Working on Yourself Helps Others

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This time of year can be very depressing for many people.  I tend to bounce between anxiety to happiness, sometimes in a matter of minutes.  So, it’s really important to focus on what you need, and how you treat others, especially if your own emotions are flying all over the place.  Slow down, take a breath and find the calmness in yourself.  When you do this, you can interact in a much more positive way with others.  Then, tackle all the additional things that need to be done.

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December Goals

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I should be honest and say that my main goal for this month is to live through it.  This is the most stressful time of year for me.  After many years of seemingly (actually) disappointing some members of my family no matter what I bought, I find that the holiday can be excruciating.  As the month goes on, my stress levels rise, and I get more and more anxious regarding the gifts that I’ve bought.   I over-think everything and cause myself much more stress than is healthy.  Needless to say, I’m going to try to nip this whole thing in the bud this year, and refuse to over-think it.  After all, the people whom I’m referring to are adults, and their behavior is immature, to say the least.

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I’m still working on finding affordable health care, and since the exchanges close on the 15th, this is my first priority.  I would really appreciate being able to go for an eye exam this year – I just know that I need a new prescription.  Also, after going for a year hoping that nothing terrible happened health-wise, I’d really like to at least know that I’ve got “good” insurance this year (“good” insurance is a relative term, don’t you think)?

Another goal is to decide what did and did not work for me over the last year, and figure out some plans on how to better achieve my goals for the coming year.  Also, further organization has to be done, so there will be more “stuff” taken to the swap-shop at the dump.

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What are your goals for the month?  Let me know in the comments below and we can cheer each other on!

 

 

 

Christmas is Coming!

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Thanksgiving is over and done.  The dishes have been washed and put away.  Those five pounds you’ve put on (I hope not!) will probably add up to a grand total of ten before the holidays are over.  And now, what’s going on?  Just the biggest sales event of the year…Christmas!  It seems that the only thing Christmas is for is extreme consumerism.

I don’t have cable, so I don’t really see all the commercials that most other people do.  I’m not inundated with “buy, buy, buy!” constantly.  I don’t even listen to the radio since I tend to listen to books when I’m cooking and cleaning, and I listen to CD’s while driving.  But even so, I’m also receiving all the advertisements in the mail and inserted in the paper on a daily basis.

You would think that Christmas was all about greed!  Seriously, that’s not what the whole idea behind Christmas is about.  Before you spend your money on “things” this year, consider what it is that truly makes life special.  Spend time with your loved ones.  Create new traditions that involve doing things together.  That’s what they’ll remember long after the new toys are lying broken on the floor.

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What are You a Product of?

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I love this quote.  It reminds me that even though life happens, and sometimes it can be difficult and challenging, I don’t have to let it destroy me.  I can be a product of my decisions regarding those circumstances.

I know that we all think we have some semblance of “control” over our fates.  Life loves to throw us a curve ball every once in a while, and our “game” changes, often through no fault of our own…it’s just life.

So, whenever I feel like wallowing in the negativity of it all, this quote helps bring me back to the realization that even though “whatever” happened, my response to that “whatever” is what matters.  Of course, just like everyone else, I can have some over-the-top initial responses, you know the ones, where you simply lose your head, and give in to the negativity.  However, the decisions and actions that you take after that initial reaction is what actually matters.  So, just remember, you really are not your circumstances, you area product of your decisions.

 

Changing Energy

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Lately life has been a struggle.  I’ve been moderately depressed for a while now, and have been thinking about how I can change my outlook.  I really want to make my home a peaceful place that is both organized and homey.  What I want is a place to recover from the outside world and find peace and a soothing atmosphere.  While this sounds like a wonderful idea, some of the less peaceful aspects of my life have to do with the people whom I live with.  When I came across the above quote, I realized that the only thing that I can actually do is to try to create the space I need/want, and see if it helps me.

I can’t change the energy that others emit, nor can I change their behavior/words/actions.  I can only worry about what I do, how I do it, and create the space that I need.  So, that’s what I’m going to do.  I know that one of my goals for the month of November was to organize and de-clutter my living room and dining room so that’s where I am going to start this process.

How do you create peace in your life?  Let me know if you have any ideas.  Let’s help to create peace one space at a time.

Eggshells and You

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I just wanted to post this quote I found for those of you who are dealing with hyper-critical family members.  One of the terrible things about being criticized for everything you do, is how it dismantles your sense of self.  Remember when someone is belittling you, it says more about them then it does you.  No matter how hard it may be, look within for your sense of self, stand tall, and even if you have to dance in the shadows, dance.

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Where Thoughts Go, Energy Flows

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This is just a little reminder for you.  Try not to fill your brain up with negativity.  Even though negative thoughts are so easy, don’t be tempted to dwell on them. While we all know that it’s easier to think about how terrible a problem is, the only way to change it is to think of a solution.

While not every problem has a solution, sometimes the solution is to simply stop dwelling on the problem.  In life, there are always going to be things that we can’t change.  We can’t change someone else, so a solution is to stop dwelling on their behavior and think about something you can change – like not letting what they choose to do and say bother you.

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Of course, this is hard – negativity (complaining, dwelling on situations) is so much easier than positivity, and finding a solution.  Remember, it’s a process.  Like anything, it will take you quite a while to focus your energy on what you can do.  Put your thoughts toward positivity and see how it changes your life.