Motivation Reminders


Do you remember why you decided to make changes in your life?  It’s now the second month of the year, and all those great resolutions are beginning to look a little worn now.  Maybe getting up early to work out is turning into more of a painful experience than you thought it would, or it’s just too difficult to keep going with your goals when the results simply either aren’t there, or are just going too slowly.

I do know how this goes.  Before last year I would let the slowness of the changes get me down, and eventually I’d stop pursuing my goals.  However, last year was a turning point for me.  One of the things that I kept reminding myself about was the fact that although I am older than I’ve ever been before, I’m also the youngest I’ll ever be.  My workout was also fueled by the realization that I did not want to become one of those older people who in actuality was old before they really were old.  My example of this was a chance encounter with a woman who looked to be in her late 60’s who also suffered from fibromyalgia –used a walker, and genuinely believed that there was nothing she could do to improve her life.  She also told me that once I hit 50 – she was 51, my problems with my disease would get so bad that I’d be just like her.  She was shocked when I told her that I was in fact 53, and felt quite well.  I did give her my e-mail so that we could talk some more about what it was I did for my fibromyalgia.  She however has never e-mailed me, much to my dismay.

So, what reminders can you find to help you stay on your path toward your goals?  The above are two of mine.  The other one is shear stubbornness, which once I decided to use this little character flaw for my own benefit, has been a big helper in keeping me on my path.  Leave your reminders in the comments below.  Maybe you can help someone else out with obtaining their goals.


Are You Rocking Your Goals?


Here it is, the first day of the second month of 2019, so…are you rocking your goals?  Have you accomplished some of your 2019 goals, or are you still working on them, or – have you tossed them to the wayside?  I must admit that I’ve occasionally gotten a little too ambitious with my yearly goals and been so completely overwhelmed that I’ve given up at the first sign of difficulty.

So, what to do when that happens?  One thing that I’ve found helpful is to take a large goal and break it down into “doable” parts.  Just small things that can be accomplished much more easily.  For example, if you want to improve your cooking skills but get overwhelmed by all those professionals out there that are oh so intimidating, just make one new easy recipe a week.  Much simpler than recreating the entire Mastering the Art of French Cooking, wouldn’t you say?

If you feel like you’ve already “failed” at a goal, re-examine first, why you feel that way; and second, reasons why that could have happened.  Did you simply not give yourself enough time?  Or did you sabotage yourself?  In the past (present, and probably future), I’ve sabotaged myself –  it’s a common thing, and there are unending ways of doing so.  For example, you decide a goal is to get up early and work out, but you end up going to bed too late.  Bingo! – Sabotage!  Examine what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.  It can be surprising how easily we get ourselves to give up.  And, why do we do that?  Because our brain wants to keep doing what it’s been doing.  It’s easier that way…change is hard.

I want you to be aware of what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.  If you’ve slipped up, remember, tomorrow is another day.  Keep at it, and remember that you’re not alone.


2018 Goals in Review


As 2018 draws to a close, I thought that I’d review some of the goals that I made almost a year ago.  The accomplishment that I’m most proud of is my fitness goals.  I’ve worked-out every morning this year, and I’ve walked 960 miles.  Next year I intend to build on what I’ve done and improve my fitness level.

My organization skills are still in need refining.  I did follow through on my menu planning more weeks than I didn’t, so at least that wasn’t a total wash.  My general organization has a long way to go, so it wasn’t a complete success.  Also, my fiction writing took second fiddle to my crazy daily haiku writing.  Now that the year is over, I won’t be doing that again.  I am glad that I pushed myself into writing a daily haiku, it forced me to write when I didn’t want to, and absolutely made me be creative when I simply “wasn’t feeling it”.

The other rather big thing that I wanted to finish this year was getting my business off the ground.  That is the one big thing that I didn’t accomplish.  I have been reading and studying various books, etc., but it was just a failure.  That being said, I have no excuse other than no confidence in myself – something I’ve been working on with my affirmations.  I wrote about how important I feel affirmations are, and they have been starting to work for me after all this time of saying them daily.

So, how did you do on your goals?  Let me know in the comments below.  I look forward to sharing my goals for 2019 soon.  Hopefully we will encourage each other!


Dreams are Soul’s Wishes


What an interesting quote.  Do you think this is true?  What are your dreams – you know, those “crazy” ideas you have for living the life you desire – fulfilling your deepest wishes.  Do you feel that they are much too hard to attain, or have you slowly but surely been working on them all along?  I remember reading the story of a man who had always wanted to obtain a higher education, so he decided upon retirement that he was going to go to college, but couldn’t afford it.  His solution was to go anyway and audit the classes (this simply meant that he could do the work, but not receive any credit).  His friends gave him a hard time, telling him that he’d be too old when he finished, but his response was that he’d be that age anyway, so what difference would it make.  Some ten years later, he was still auditing various courses, doing the course work and passing every class.  The college finally gave him an honorary degree for his dedication to learning.  Needless to say, he was the same age he would have been anyway, only now he’d gotten the education he’d always wanted.  Life is to be lived, after all.

See, if someone really is courageous enough to follow through on their soul’s wishes, they are often able to find a way to fulfill them.  The problem, I have found, is finding the courage to follow through.  Turn your dreams into actions and fulfill your wishes!


Staying Positive During Hard Times


As you know, there are times when life sucks.  And, believe it or not, that’s actually okay.  Life can’t be sunshine, roses and chocolate all the time.  Because, if it was, would that sunshine feel as wonderful?  Would the roses smell as sweet?  Well, I can tell you from experience, chocolate tastes fantastic no matter what is happening, but I’m sure you catch my drift.

When life is hard, take a breath – or twenty – or a hundred, and stand up and just deal with it.  Don’t put yourself down, don’t dwell on faulting someone (or yourself), just figure out a way to deal with it.  Focus your energy on doing whatever you can control to make life better, and do it!


October Goals


Once again, it’s a new month, and of course that means a new list of goals.  I sincerely hope that your September was much more productive than mine was.  However, this is a new month and so a new outlook and new goals.  That being said, here’s my list of goals for the month.

  1. Spend one hour per day writing creatively. It doesn’t matter what, just that it’s creative.
  2. Get house fall cleaned and throw/give away “stuff”. Right now, I’ve got two seasons of clothes out in my bedroom.  One day it’ll be in the lower 60°’s, and the next almost 80°.  My bedroom is a mess!  Hopefully I won’t be needing summer clothes in the near future and can put them away.
  3. Read at least two books for business/self-growth.
  4. Work on school and website.
  5. Be consistent with menu planning.
  6. Keep working out daily. This is the only goal that I’ve achieved consistently all year.  Very proud of myself and I intend to keep it up.

Okay, so there’s my list of goals.  How are you doing with your goals?  Hope you’ve made your list and plan to work on achieving them.  Remain positive, and remember, every day is a new beginning!


How do You Change Your Life?


Most people probably have some thing or other about their life that they’d love to change.  Whether it’s their job, home or health, many people are not contented with all aspects of their lives.  As someone who has spent many years making goals and then failing to achieve said goals, I’ve recently realized why I didn’t achieve them.  There is a process to goal-making that many of us know:  write down your goal; set steps to take so you can achieve the goal; do the work. While this model is good, I’ve found it’s not going to get you where you want to go.  To do that, you have to add something else – affirmations.

Yep, for years I had the idea that affirmations were for “other people” and I didn’t really need them.  However, on January 2nd I started saying affirmations every night before I fell asleep.  And, guess what?  Somewhere in my beanie little brain, I started to think these affirmations just might be correct.  And, since my easiest (ha! – easy!) goal was getting up and working out, that’s what I’ve done.  I’ve now formed a habit, and I get up every morning between 4:45 and 6:00 (which is my idea of “sleeping late”) and work out.  I don’t do this because I “love it”, I do it because it’s my goal, and now has become a part of my daily routine.


How did I come to this miraculous conclusion?  Well, when I was writing my 200+ Days of Change post, I began wondering why I was actually achieving this specific goal against all the odds – family, time, naysayers, ME, and realized that the affirmations were the only thing I was doing differently this time around.  My affirmations are specific to what I want to accomplish this year, but at the same time they are designed to increase my self-esteem and self-confidence (something a lot of people need to work on).  I believe that the most important ones I say are: “I am a worthy person”; “I believe in myself”; and “I love myself”.  Now that I’ve figured out this works, I’m going to start saying my affirmations in the morning, too.  Maybe this will help me start achieving my other goals, too.

If you have low self-esteem, or self-confidence issues, I urge you to say these affirmations to yourself as many times as you can every day.  Just keep saying them even if it makes you feel silly or uncomfortable – I had a really hard time at first, but just kept at it (fake it until you believe it).  See if you don’t feel differently after 30 or 60 days of being consistent.  It’s a small thing to do, but it just might help you change your life for the better.