2018 Goals in Review

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As 2018 draws to a close, I thought that I’d review some of the goals that I made almost a year ago.  The accomplishment that I’m most proud of is my fitness goals.  I’ve worked-out every morning this year, and I’ve walked 960 miles.  Next year I intend to build on what I’ve done and improve my fitness level.

My organization skills are still in need refining.  I did follow through on my menu planning more weeks than I didn’t, so at least that wasn’t a total wash.  My general organization has a long way to go, so it wasn’t a complete success.  Also, my fiction writing took second fiddle to my crazy daily haiku writing.  Now that the year is over, I won’t be doing that again.  I am glad that I pushed myself into writing a daily haiku, it forced me to write when I didn’t want to, and absolutely made me be creative when I simply “wasn’t feeling it”.

The other rather big thing that I wanted to finish this year was getting my business off the ground.  That is the one big thing that I didn’t accomplish.  I have been reading and studying various books, etc., but it was just a failure.  That being said, I have no excuse other than no confidence in myself – something I’ve been working on with my affirmations.  I wrote about how important I feel affirmations are, and they have been starting to work for me after all this time of saying them daily.

So, how did you do on your goals?  Let me know in the comments below.  I look forward to sharing my goals for 2019 soon.  Hopefully we will encourage each other!

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Dreams are Soul’s Wishes

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What an interesting quote.  Do you think this is true?  What are your dreams – you know, those “crazy” ideas you have for living the life you desire – fulfilling your deepest wishes.  Do you feel that they are much too hard to attain, or have you slowly but surely been working on them all along?  I remember reading the story of a man who had always wanted to obtain a higher education, so he decided upon retirement that he was going to go to college, but couldn’t afford it.  His solution was to go anyway and audit the classes (this simply meant that he could do the work, but not receive any credit).  His friends gave him a hard time, telling him that he’d be too old when he finished, but his response was that he’d be that age anyway, so what difference would it make.  Some ten years later, he was still auditing various courses, doing the course work and passing every class.  The college finally gave him an honorary degree for his dedication to learning.  Needless to say, he was the same age he would have been anyway, only now he’d gotten the education he’d always wanted.  Life is to be lived, after all.

See, if someone really is courageous enough to follow through on their soul’s wishes, they are often able to find a way to fulfill them.  The problem, I have found, is finding the courage to follow through.  Turn your dreams into actions and fulfill your wishes!

 

Staying Positive During Hard Times

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As you know, there are times when life sucks.  And, believe it or not, that’s actually okay.  Life can’t be sunshine, roses and chocolate all the time.  Because, if it was, would that sunshine feel as wonderful?  Would the roses smell as sweet?  Well, I can tell you from experience, chocolate tastes fantastic no matter what is happening, but I’m sure you catch my drift.

When life is hard, take a breath – or twenty – or a hundred, and stand up and just deal with it.  Don’t put yourself down, don’t dwell on faulting someone (or yourself), just figure out a way to deal with it.  Focus your energy on doing whatever you can control to make life better, and do it!

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October Goals

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Once again, it’s a new month, and of course that means a new list of goals.  I sincerely hope that your September was much more productive than mine was.  However, this is a new month and so a new outlook and new goals.  That being said, here’s my list of goals for the month.

  1. Spend one hour per day writing creatively. It doesn’t matter what, just that it’s creative.
  2. Get house fall cleaned and throw/give away “stuff”. Right now, I’ve got two seasons of clothes out in my bedroom.  One day it’ll be in the lower 60°’s, and the next almost 80°.  My bedroom is a mess!  Hopefully I won’t be needing summer clothes in the near future and can put them away.
  3. Read at least two books for business/self-growth.
  4. Work on school and website.
  5. Be consistent with menu planning.
  6. Keep working out daily. This is the only goal that I’ve achieved consistently all year.  Very proud of myself and I intend to keep it up.

Okay, so there’s my list of goals.  How are you doing with your goals?  Hope you’ve made your list and plan to work on achieving them.  Remain positive, and remember, every day is a new beginning!

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How do You Change Your Life?

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Most people probably have some thing or other about their life that they’d love to change.  Whether it’s their job, home or health, many people are not contented with all aspects of their lives.  As someone who has spent many years making goals and then failing to achieve said goals, I’ve recently realized why I didn’t achieve them.  There is a process to goal-making that many of us know:  write down your goal; set steps to take so you can achieve the goal; do the work. While this model is good, I’ve found it’s not going to get you where you want to go.  To do that, you have to add something else – affirmations.

Yep, for years I had the idea that affirmations were for “other people” and I didn’t really need them.  However, on January 2nd I started saying affirmations every night before I fell asleep.  And, guess what?  Somewhere in my beanie little brain, I started to think these affirmations just might be correct.  And, since my easiest (ha! – easy!) goal was getting up and working out, that’s what I’ve done.  I’ve now formed a habit, and I get up every morning between 4:45 and 6:00 (which is my idea of “sleeping late”) and work out.  I don’t do this because I “love it”, I do it because it’s my goal, and now has become a part of my daily routine.

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How did I come to this miraculous conclusion?  Well, when I was writing my 200+ Days of Change post, I began wondering why I was actually achieving this specific goal against all the odds – family, time, naysayers, ME, and realized that the affirmations were the only thing I was doing differently this time around.  My affirmations are specific to what I want to accomplish this year, but at the same time they are designed to increase my self-esteem and self-confidence (something a lot of people need to work on).  I believe that the most important ones I say are: “I am a worthy person”; “I believe in myself”; and “I love myself”.  Now that I’ve figured out this works, I’m going to start saying my affirmations in the morning, too.  Maybe this will help me start achieving my other goals, too.

If you have low self-esteem, or self-confidence issues, I urge you to say these affirmations to yourself as many times as you can every day.  Just keep saying them even if it makes you feel silly or uncomfortable – I had a really hard time at first, but just kept at it (fake it until you believe it).  See if you don’t feel differently after 30 or 60 days of being consistent.  It’s a small thing to do, but it just might help you change your life for the better.

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200+ Days of Change

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We are already 200+ days into 2018.  That fact is both surprising and horrifying at the same time.  I know that I’m not where I wanted to be by this time this year.  I don’t feel like I’ve done nearly the things that I wanted to.  However, the one thing that I’ve done, every day since January 2nd, is to work out.  Every. Single. Day.  Even the days with a heat index of 105° I have gotten up and worked out.  Last week was terribly hot and humid, but instead of walking my 2+miles outside in the heat, I walked in the morning, in my basement using a Denise Austin DVD.  So, I still got it done.  I achieved my 18 mile-a-week goal anyway.

So, there have been benefits – I’ve got some muscles, my Buddha-belly is smaller and my butt is no longer on the floor.  While I’ve added planks, twists and sit-ups; I’m still looking forward to finding that exact Billy Blanks workout so that I can get started on Tae Bo again.  For the record, I’m sure that I’m just being too picky and too worried about whether I can keep up.  There is nothing worse than thinking you’re doing well, and then trying a much too hard workout.  I’ve been consistently doing some Sun Salutations every day so that my flexibility has improved.  Am I happy with my progress?  Yes, but there is room for improvement.

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As far as reactions to my changing…my daughter has been a wonderful cheerleader.  However, there are other people in my life who have been less than enthusiastic.  As a matter of fact, they’ve recently gone out of their way to make my feel terrible for “wasting” time on making myself healthier.  When this behavior has happened in the past, I’ve actually been bullied into stopping.  Not. This. Time.  And, I’m beginning to apply this new mind-set to other areas of my life.  Hopefully I’ll have some other improvements in the next 100 days.  How have your changes been going?  Share and let us know!

 

How Your Self-esteem Affects Your Goals

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There are many reasons why people don’t manage to attain their goals.  Some people simply lose interest, others change their goals, but some of us may have self-esteem issues that make it difficult for us to reach the goals we set for ourselves.  Of course, when this happens, what little self-esteem we do have takes a hit, and attaining any goals we set then becomes that much more difficult.

Sometimes when we have low self-esteem we can either set goals that are too high, (perfection anyone?) or too low.  Setting the bar too low doesn’t really help with improving self-esteem since we denigrate whatever it is that we attained.  On the other hand, perfection never helped anyone ever.  I can get caught up in the perfection issue way too easily.  As a matter of fact, I’ve managed to sabotage myself nearly every time I’ve decided to start working out by insisting on getting up every morning at a certain time – no exceptions.  As a matter of fact, I really think that the only reason I’m still working out this time is because I allow myself to “sleep in” (if 6:00 am can be considered sleeping in).  By allowing myself an extra hour or hour-and-a-half of sleep once or twice a week, I’ve taken the perfection out of the mix.  And, I’m still getting up and working out.  Take that perfection!

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So, when you start your goal setting process ask yourself if your goal is based on perfection.  If it is, change that goal.  If it’s a goal that’s way too low, ask yourself if you want to keep it, attain it and then make the goal a little harder, or do you want to just set a slightly harder goal.  Being able to attain part one of a goal and then commit to part two may give you the self-esteem boost that you want.  By attaining goals, we improve our self-esteem, and that is a good thing!  I’ve left an interesting link for you to read below.

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/self-esteem-and-standards/

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