Gritting Your Teeth & Getting on With It


I’ve been dealing with a lot of pain and over-all depression lately.  Every workout seems like the worst one so far.  I’ve been dragging myself out of bed in the morning and getting through my workouts by the skin of my teeth.  It hasn’t been fun…in fact it’s been terrible!  But I’ve worked out every morning in 2018, and I don’t want to stop.  So, what to do?

I don’t know.  I feel like I’m at the end of my rope, but I do get up and carry on.  It may not be “pretty”, but I’m getting it done.  The main thing that’s changed is that a family member said some very hurtful, nasty things to me just a few weeks ago, and those comments seem to have seeped into my marrow and stuck with me.  Emotional and verbal abuse will do that.  Initially I seemed okay, but as time has gone on the comments are running in a loop inside my head.  Of course, the best way to combat this is to consider the source.  This individual is not considered a person to take anything he says to heart.  His main purpose in life is to make others feel badly about themselves.  I am not the only person he does this to, and this is just what he does.  I can’t change him, but I can counteract these comments with what I know is true.


So I’m saying my affirmations twice daily (as opposed to only once a day), and focusing on my own stuff right now. I’m trying to replace the negative inside my mind with the positive.  And, I am stubbornly gritting my teeth and getting it done.  It’s a daily struggle but I’m doing it.  The worst thing would be to give up and let the depression take over.  So, if you’re in the same place, keep going.  Do your own thing, and try try try to remain positive.  Focus on you and what positive actions you can take.



Life Changes


There are as many ways to change your life as there are people. While one way will work for one person, it won’t work for another. Each of us is in charge of how our life goes, even when it doesn’t feel like that. Our reactions to what happens to us is often the only way we can change things. Each time something perceived as “bad” happens, we can control how we react. Just for an example, my sixty-year-old husband was laid off a few weeks ago. He could have decided that was it, and he wasn’t going to work anymore. That, of course would have been devastating, and we would have sunk into a mire of our own making. We owe a mortgage payment, a tractor payment, not to mention the usual utilities, etc. that go along with living. Instead he looked at where he was, and realized that being completely depressed wasn’t going to help. We needed to replace his phone, and laptop, since they were both company-owned. Which we did, immediately. Not so easy is replacing the company-owned truck, since our truck is a diesel-guzzling beast. However, we will be hopefully getting a certified pre-owned smaller truck with better gas-mileage soon. But, the best part of this was that because of the many contacts he has made over the years, he was hired with a new company within five days (including a weekend).

We were lucky. I know that we were lucky. Events turned out just right for us, and I know that they don’t turn out just right for everyone. My daughter graduated Magda Cum Laude from college in September and she is still looking for work. Luckily, she has her job creating content for a web-site that she’s had for a few years, but she would really like to find a full-time job. She looks, but the market is tough.

The big difference with this set-back was that we had an action plan, and I believe that action helped keep up my husband’s spirits. I didn’t let him sit around and be depressed. I helped him act in order to go forward. Sure, looking for a phone and laptop doesn’t sound like much, but it did keep him occupied. Having to find places to store all his tools, etc. that were in his truck also kept him busy. He went from working to sorting and storing, to planning and researching new phones and laptops. Action is necessary for change.


The end note is this: no matter how much you want to change, you have to put that want into action. Action is what changes you. Nothing else. So, decide how you want to change, and ACT!


Aging and the Assumption that I am Infirm


Okay, I admit that I’m “of a certain age”, however, I must insist that I am not infirm!  My mail boxes, both on-line and the actual mail box are full of “adult” ads for aids such as:  the infamous “I’ve fallen and can’t get up” buttons; adult diapers, gadgets to help me pull up my own socks – because apparently not only am I too infirm to get up off the floor, I wet myself and I cannot bend over to touch my own toes (while sitting down!).  I keep getting phone calls trying to sell me buttons to summon help, hiring a “companion/homemaker”, and to convert my shower into one for people who need to sit down, complete with bars I can hang onto.  And then, there are all the ads for “retirement homes”.  Like I’d enjoy living in an area where everyone is in the same age group.  Who would I play with?  Seriously, who would I color with and play trucks with?  Who would I run around the backyard with?  I really need my younger (much younger) playmates.  Can you imagine the boredom?


I am still in my 50’s, and my husband just turned 60.  Are Americans so infirm at our ages that we all need these products?  I’m also getting calls about less-expensive pharmaceuticals for my imagined diabetes, high blood pressure, extra weight, feet problems, and more!  Are there so many of us in our 50’s and early 60’s who have these health issues?  I hope not, for that makes certain assumptions about our health that are downright frightening.  At my last visit to the doctor he did state that it is unusual for a woman my age to not be on some kind of medication.


Since diet is everything when your health is concerned, I know that I eat much better than the average American.  While the health benefits of no longer consuming oil or animal products has been outstanding, it is a little disconcerting to realize that the typical American needs medicine at my age.  Just think of the money the average American spends on prescriptions.  We could use that money for purchasing better food, and enjoying the benefits to our health.

If it is true that the “typical” American my age is taking so many medications, please, please do yourselves the favor of going to  and reading the information there.  Dr. Greger is the author of the book How Not to Die, and his information is science-based.  Change your diet and you change your life.  Get healthy so you can stay healthy for years to come.  And maybe we all won’t be getting harassed by all those annoying calls and ads.




How are you doing with your Goals?


How are you doing with your 2018 goals?  Are you still focused on them, or have you already lost sight of the end zone?  Even though we’re barely into the new year, I know that some of us are struggling to keep going.  I’ll admit that the only thing that gets me up and out of bed to workout in the morning is the knowledge that I haven’t missed a day yet, and I don’t want it to be this morning that I miss.


Have you already accomplished some of your goals?  Or have you just been mulling them over?  Are there steps that you’ve taken to get you closer to attaining them?  Don’t let too much time pass before you get working on those goals you set.  But mostly, remember that every day is a new day.  We don’t need a Monday to start changing our lives, we only need to start!

Quotes on Changing for the Better


Changing things about your life can be hard.  For every step forward, there are times that you feel you’ve gone back two steps.  It’s hard to keep up the momentum, but the only way to succeed is to keep going.  Here are a few quotes to keep you on your path.





Today is my birthday.  I’m not going to come right out and tell you my age, since I feel that mystery is a good thing.  However, I will tell you that even though I’m in my 50’s you wouldn’t be able to guess, since I’ve been blessed with both a baby-face, and good genes – not great, but good.  Until very recently I haven’t been taking care of my skin, instead choosing simply to put coconut oil on my face and neck every night for a number of years.  Although coconut oil is wonderful, I’ve decided that I’d probably benefit from some age-appropriate eye and face/neck night creams.  I’ve found some that I like, so that’s what I’ve been doing.  Next up on my list is to start using masks.  This is something that even though I am aware of them, I haven’t bothered to use them.

For a long time, I didn’t wear any make-up, I also didn’t bother to cut my hair for years and years at a time, choosing to wear it in a bun every single day.  I do cut my bangs with a variety of very crooked results, many of which have been amusing to the world at large.  However, as part of my effort to improve my life, I’ve started both wearing some make-up and I recently had my hair cut at a salon.  How transformative is that?

As I age, I can’t help but notice that people seem to feel that we need to fight against any obvious signs of aging, cover our gray/white hair, and pretend that we’re not getting any older.  And, for celebrities who have rocked the aging coin, Helen Mirren, we say they are “sexy for their age”.  No, Helen Mirren is sexy, period!   But exactly what is sexy, anyway.  True sexiness comes from within.  It’s confidence in yourself, and some people, like Helen, have that in spades!


Since I read some fashion magazines (yes, it’s a little secret of mine), I find it upsetting that most models/celebrities who are featured are young or at the most, in their 40’s.  So, is it that as women we drop off the face of the earth as we become older?  I know that men get to age like “fine wine”, but what do we say about older women?  Usually, the nicest thing we say is that she “looks good for her age”, as though age is a thing we can fight and overcome.  Well, I’m here to let you in on a little secret, no matter how many facelifts and/or nip and tucks you get, you do indeed age.  It happens to ALL OF US!

So, what is my plan for aging?  Well, I’ve got those magic creams and masks.  I’m keeping my haircut up, and I’m thinking of using something to actually brighten my gray/white hair.  But most Importantly, I’m exercising, eating right and keeping myself moving.  Yes, I did just do a little dance to Saturday Night Fever in BJ’s this morning.  You know what, so did another woman who happened down my aisle.  We had fun!  So, yes, I will rage against the dying light.  Life is a gift, and I want to keep unwrapping it.