Working on Yourself Helps Others

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This time of year can be very depressing for many people.  I tend to bounce between anxiety to happiness, sometimes in a matter of minutes.  So, it’s really important to focus on what you need, and how you treat others, especially if your own emotions are flying all over the place.  Slow down, take a breath and find the calmness in yourself.  When you do this, you can interact in a much more positive way with others.  Then, tackle all the additional things that need to be done.

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December Goals

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I should be honest and say that my main goal for this month is to live through it.  This is the most stressful time of year for me.  After many years of seemingly (actually) disappointing some members of my family no matter what I bought, I find that the holiday can be excruciating.  As the month goes on, my stress levels rise, and I get more and more anxious regarding the gifts that I’ve bought.   I over-think everything and cause myself much more stress than is healthy.  Needless to say, I’m going to try to nip this whole thing in the bud this year, and refuse to over-think it.  After all, the people whom I’m referring to are adults, and their behavior is immature, to say the least.

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I’m still working on finding affordable health care, and since the exchanges close on the 15th, this is my first priority.  I would really appreciate being able to go for an eye exam this year – I just know that I need a new prescription.  Also, after going for a year hoping that nothing terrible happened health-wise, I’d really like to at least know that I’ve got “good” insurance this year (“good” insurance is a relative term, don’t you think)?

Another goal is to decide what did and did not work for me over the last year, and figure out some plans on how to better achieve my goals for the coming year.  Also, further organization has to be done, so there will be more “stuff” taken to the swap-shop at the dump.

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What are your goals for the month?  Let me know in the comments below and we can cheer each other on!

 

 

 

Choices Do Exist

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With all the insanity and worry that’s been happening lately (school shootings, lost immigrant children, trade wars, White House issues, etc.), life seems to be way too overwhelming, and it’s too easy to become depressed over things that we really don’t have any control over.  As a matter of fact, there are a lot of things that we have no control over – our children/spouse’s actions, work issues, unexpected bills, etc.  So, how can we react when we’re depressed and overwhelmed?

It may sound too simple, but the only thing to do is to concentrate on what you can change.  I literally sign at least 50 petitions per week, and the number seems to keep on growing.  There is only so much that I can do, and petitions and letters to my congress people are just about the best thing I can accomplish.  I have no power (other than my vote/voice), so I try to use it every chance I get.  However, there is so much going on, and I can do so little.  This is just something that I have to realize that my power to make these kinds of changes is minimal, however, I keep doing what I can.

So, depression is a problem for me, and probably for a lot of people.  How do I handle it?  I try to spend time practicing gratitude (and, as I say myself, it is a practice).  And, finally, the last and best thing, is to follow the simple quote: “In a world where you can be anything, be kind.”  These are the words that I try to live by.  I’m not saying that I succeed all the time, but when I go out into the world I try to be as nice and friendly as I can.  One thing I don’t want to do is to make someone else’s life miserable.  So, I’m always trying to be as upbeat and friendly as I can manage.  Sometimes it’s easier than other times, but I’m always trying.  What are some things that you do?  Please share in the comments below.

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February Wrap-Up

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This month has been more than a little strange.  Some of it was good strange – I made a new friend, and god knows that making a new friend “later” in life is not an easy thing to do.  So, that was a great positive!  However, the negative was that my husband was laid off from his job.  This was a huge blow, since his phone and laptop were both company-owned.  We immediately went and got him a new phone, and a new laptop.  So, now not only do we have no income, but we also have more bills to pay.  Yay us!

Hopefully he will get a new job soon, and maybe even a raise?  He hadn’t had a raise in about seven years, and we all know that the prices of things have just kept going up.  But at the same time wages have been stagnant for most of us.

As far as my February goals are concerned, I’ve worked-out every day, and done Yoga almost every day.  I have been doing a weekly dusting, so there is that!  I haven’t done any work on getting my certificate, nor have I worked too much on my fiction writing, organizing, financials or anything else.  This lay-off has kind of thrown a wrench into my stuff since I’ve been busy with my husband’s stuff.  So, that’s how my month has gone.  What about your February?  Let me know in the comments and we can encourage each other.

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Just Keep Going

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The last few weeks or so have been filled with both emotional and physical difficulties.  I’ve been suffering with low-level depression for a while now, and the time of year is not really helping.  This is the “cabin fever” time of year, and my crankiness shows!  Luckily, we’ve had a few days of sun (and mud!) so that I’ve been able to turn my face to the sun and inhale it for all I’m worth.  So, there is that positive note.

Last week while working out my back seized up on itself, and decided to just give me a little reminder that yes, there are muscles there, and if they want to, they can hurt me!  It’s been a “bump in the road”, but as I lay on the floor looking up at the ceiling, I had a thought.  Why is it that when we have muscle spasms in our backs we’re told to stay still and give it time to heal, but when we get spasms in our legs we’re told to take it easy, but not to get off our feet?  So, since I get these little reminders every once in a while, I decided to get up off the floor and finish out my workout.  I did that, in a very controlled way, and have been doing my regular workouts every day since.  Have I injured my back further?  The answer is no, I haven’t.  However, I’ve noticed that it’s getting better much faster than it usually does when I stop working out.  I have been very careful, and I do not force anything.  My Sun Salutations are done very slowly, and carefully, since bending over pulls at those muscles.  I don’t push it, and just do what I can.  Have I been wrong in the past to just stop working out until my back feels better?  Well, from how quickly I seem to be coming back (pun!) from this difficulty, I guess that I’d have to say that I was wrong to just stop.

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One of things that I’ve learned from this little experiment is that I have rotten posture.  I’ve found that if I sit up nice and straight, my back is very happy.  It’s amazing to me how much I slouch.  I guess my mother was right after all!  How do you handle back problems?  Let me know in the comments below.

Your Ship

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I love this quote because it reminds me (and I do need reminding) that what is going on outside of me does not have to be reflected inside of me.  There is chaos in the world, and there is a lot of anger and hurt and division right now.  However, I can do what I can in order to change that by writing about it and by sending letters and signing petitions.  But, if I want to live a life that is not full of stress and worry, I really need to put up boundaries and leave it all outside my mind.

It’s taken me a long time to realize that, and I longer I try to put the focus on what I can do, and what I can’t do the more peaceful I feel.  No amount of brooding I do is going to change others.  Focus on what you can do, change what you can, and make yourself the best you can be.  Yes, be active with what you can do for the outside world, but don’t make yourself crazy by letting that be your only focus.  You can’t change the world, but you can influence and change your life.  Work on that, and hopefully your change will ripple outward and touch the rest of your world.

Do You Have Enough Fun?

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What do you do for fun?  Anything?  Are you too busy with the business of life to engage in anything that you find fun?  This is a valid question, since life can get too busy, and we have too many obligations to fulfill.

Don’t forgo fun for too long.  Making time to do something fun actually has health benefits.  Not to mention we can all get too cranky if we don’t allow ourselves to have a good time once in a while.  Some benefits to having fun include decreases in stress, increased serotonin levels, increased ability to cope with life, energy boosts, improvements in both your memory and concentration, ability to get a better night’s sleep, and a more positive outlook on life.

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So, if you find yourself going too long without having fun, do yourself (and everyone around you) a favor…plan out some fun time.  Go to a funny movie (I recently went to see Jumanji and laughed hysterically), go for a hike, do something that makes you laugh.  Play a game with family and/or friends.  Find something fun to do, and do it.  You won’t regret it.

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