As you know, there are times when life sucks. And, believe it or not, that’s actually okay. Life can’t be sunshine, roses and chocolate all the time. Because, if it was, would that sunshine feel as wonderful? Would the roses smell as sweet? Well, I can tell you from experience, chocolate tastes fantastic no matter what is happening, but I’m sure you catch my drift.
When life is hard, take a breath – or twenty – or a hundred, and stand up and just deal with it. Don’t put yourself down, don’t dwell on faulting someone (or yourself), just figure out a way to deal with it. Focus your energy on doing whatever you can control to make life better, and do it!
Once again, it’s a new month, and of course that means a new list of goals. I sincerely hope that your September was much more productive than mine was. However, this is a new month and so a new outlook and new goals. That being said, here’s my list of goals for the month.
Spend one hour per day writing creatively. It doesn’t matter what, just that it’s creative.
Get house fall cleaned and throw/give away “stuff”. Right now, I’ve got two seasons of clothes out in my bedroom. One day it’ll be in the lower 60°’s, and the next almost 80°. My bedroom is a mess! Hopefully I won’t be needing summer clothes in the near future and can put them away.
Read at least two books for business/self-growth.
Work on school and website.
Be consistent with menu planning.
Keep working out daily. This is the only goal that I’ve achieved consistently all year. Very proud of myself and I intend to keep it up.
Okay, so there’s my list of goals. How are you doing with your goals? Hope you’ve made your list and plan to work on achieving them. Remain positive, and remember, every day is a new beginning!
Here’s a nasty little secret for you – no one is coming to save you. Here’s another one – you’re never going to win the lottery. Yep, if you want that prince on the white horse to come save you, you’re going to be waiting until you’re in the grave. No one is coming. You have to be your own savior.
You know what the worst part of this is? You’re going to have to do the dirty work. That lottery ticket isn’t going to be the “one”, by the way this is especially true if you don’t even buy a lottery ticket, but sometimes fantasize about what you would do if you won. (This is me…I actually do this occasionally). See, we all are looking for a savior.
The problem is that none of us wants to do the work it takes to change our lives. Most of us want to magically wake up in the morning and all the hard work is done, and we’re suddenly living our dream life. That would be great. But it’s not going to happen.
So, what do we do? One of the first things to do is to admit this to yourself. Admit that you’re going to have to do the work. Admit that you are worth it…this is the most important part. You need to feel that you are worth all the hard work. That the life you’ve dreamed of for so long is what you’re worthy of. And then, you need to make a plan, set some goals, and start the work. The only way to fulfill your dreams is to do the work. Be your own savior.
If you tend to dwell in negativity that is all that you will find. Looking for the best in life will force you to find it. We do tend to find what it is that we’re looking for, after all. I know this can be difficult (I too have spent way too much time in negativity), but remember, if you change your focus, you can change your life.
When times are hard, look at what is going right and build positivity from there. Life is never just one thing. Positive and negative both surround us, but if you focus on the good things it will give you the strength to overcome the negative.
Labor Day is just around the corner. Have you fulfilled all your summer dreams, or have you simply had a great summer of not accomplishing much? To tell the truth, I’m in the latter group, and have very few regrets, although I do know that my September is going to be much busier than my August. Creatively I wrote more than I initially thought, since I’ve been writing a haiku per day – a little project that I was under the mistaken impression would be relatively easy – hah! However, the best part of this project is that I’ve been taking a photo per haiku, which has been pretty fun. While I haven’t even touched my novel, I have had a lot of ideas, and have written a couple of 600-word short stories – which, again, is a whole lot harder than you would think.
So many books, so little time!
Other than that, my summer has been pretty much me sitting around with a book in my face. I haven’t gotten much done at all…however, now that maybe some cooler weather is on its way – I hope! – I will ramp back up and start getting more of my goals accomplished. I hope that you enjoy the last weekend of summer!
This is just a little reminder for you. Try not to fill your brain up with negativity. Even though negative thoughts are so easy, don’t be tempted to dwell on them. While we all know that it’s easier to think about how terrible a problem is, the only way to change it is to think of a solution.
While not every problem has a solution, sometimes the solution is to simply stop dwelling on the problem. In life, there are always going to be things that we can’t change. We can’t change someone else, so a solution is to stop dwelling on their behavior and think about something you can change – like not letting what they choose to do and say bother you.
Of course, this is hard – negativity (complaining, dwelling on situations) is so much easier than positivity, and finding a solution. Remember, it’s a process. Like anything, it will take you quite a while to focus your energy on what you can do. Put your thoughts toward positivity and see how it changes your life.