Having Motivation and Positive Thoughts


Life can seem like a series of negative stuff thrown at you from out of the blue.  Or, it can seem like opportunities to start over, and learn new things.  How you look at it makes all the difference in the world.  Of course, while you are caught up in a life-changing event, it can be difficult to see it in a positive way.  But that is precisely when you do need all the positivity and motivation you can get.  Here are some quotes to help you out.  And, even if your life is going along swimmingly, positivity and motivation can always be welcomed!



March Goals


March is kind of a weird month.  We have snow, mud, cold weather and sometimes warmer temperatures to contend with.  It’s the month where we’re all done with winter, but it’s not all done with us.  So, as I’m more than a little tired of making kindling and hauling wood, one of my goals this month will be to start my Spring Cleaning.  I know, the dreaded Spring Cleaning!  But we all know that it rears its ugly head right around this time.  My plan is to start upstairs with my bedroom and go on from there.  Since I still (always) have more stuff to get rid of, I will be doing that, too.


My other goals are to continue working out, work on my Certificate and website, and also get my novel printed out so I can have it read.  I just dropped out of my writer’s group because there was that one person who insisted the group was supposed to be all about her.  She monopolized every meeting, and I finally couldn’t deal with it.  My goal is to continue writing at least one fiction story (600 words or less) each month.  That’s a hard goal, since it requires you to be concise.  There’s just no room to fool around.  Tell the story and then you’re done!  I really like that, since I have a hard time with being concise.

So, those are my March goals.  What are yours? Let me know in the comments below, and we can encourage each other.

Take Time to Rest


I know that many people (including me), see the weekend as a time to catch up on chores and errands.  A time to run around and be busy “getting things done”.  However, it is also a time to rest, relax and renew.  Spend time on just being.  Relax, read a book, do some Yoga, meditate.  Your life doesn’t need to be full of “things to do”.  Just be present in the moment.  Take some time out.  Shut off your phones, unplug the internet.  Just breathe.



Yes, Your Diet Is Related to Your Health!


We keep hearing “all things in moderation”, and other silly statements meant to placate us into thinking that we can eat our cake (meat, dairy,) and be healthy all the same.  It’s a nice thought, but is it true?  Is the “typical” American diet keeping you in good health?  Well, it certainly doesn’t seem to be, given the amount of people with diseases that are caused by the “typical” American diet.   Frankly, our food choices are killing us.

Diet accounts for the following diseases:  cardiovascular; diabetes; obesity; and most (if not all) cancers.  So, you would think that your doctor would let you know that you need to make better food choices.  However, that is usually not the case.  Instead, we run into the typical “all things in moderation” type of advice.  When it comes to choices that actually cause death, there shouldn’t be any discussion of “moderation” in consumption of them.  We’ve been told for years that we should not smoke, since that leads to death, why not the same with food?


Since I am a cynic, I more than suspect that this negligence on the part of the entire health industry has more than a little to do with profits.  After all, the following people/corporations profit from your illness:  doctors, hospitals, pharmacies, and drug companies.  They are making a tidy profit off of you, and Americans are getting sicker at a younger and younger age.  This is simply ridiculous and really should stop.

I’m leaving some links for you to follow in order to educated yourselves, since the health industry isn’t going to do it for you.  Change your diet, change your life!




Here is a link that can answer all of your possible questions regarding diet and health, and they are much more qualified than I am.  Please go to https://nutritionfacts.org/ for your answers.




Words of Wisdom – 12 Things to Remember


I love these 12 statements.  All of them are true.  They apply to all of us.  If we were to read these every few days, think about them and put them into effect, our lives would be more efficient, happier, and more productive.

How much time do you spend worrying about yesterday, and/or other people’s opinions?  Do you let these things, that you can’t do anything about, ruin your today?  Or do you compare yourself to someone else?  Our lives are all different, we’re on different paths, and also different speeds.  What works for someone else, won’t necessarily work for you, and what works for you doesn’t for another person.

Most importantly, things change.  They don’t stay the same.  During difficult times this is a good thing to remember.  But, it’s also true of the good times.  Sometimes things just work, and sometimes they don’t – that’s life!

Are you too judgmental?  Remember, when you are negative and judging, it says much more about you than it does about the person you are judging.  Check your own behavior/habits before you judge another.

Overthinking (worrying) is something I excel at.  And yes, most of what I worry about doesn’t come to pass.  It also prevents me from accomplishing what I could be doing instead of overthinking things.  Be aware when you do this, and try to curtail it.  It doesn’t have any positive effect, and can lead to depression and anxiety.

Happiness doesn’t come from others, “things”, or “more”.  It comes from yourself.  This is one of the hardest things to remember.  Our society tells us from a young age that happiness can be bought, or found in another.  No, only you can make yourself happy!

Positivity comes from focusing on being positive.  Seriously, it’s that easy.  If you consciously reflect on the positive, it helps chase the negative away.  Which leads to the next thing on the list – sharing smiles.  Try to smile at other people.  The cashier, the mailman, the person next to you at work.  It doesn’t cost you a thing, and as science has proven, it makes you happier to simply smile.  Along with smiling, try being kind.  Ask others about themselves, be helpful.  Again, it doesn’t cost you anything, and leaves you with a positive feeling.

One of the hardest things to remember is that failure isn’t quitting.  If plan A doesn’t work, go to plan B.  Think of how long it took others to invent a new anything.  Think of all the failure that came before they finally got it right.  If they had quit, the steam engine, telescope, etc. etc. would never have been invented.  Failure is not quitting, stopping is quitting.  Don’t stop.

And, last, but not least, what you put out into the world comes back to you.  If you’re negative and judgmental, that’s what you’ll get back.  If you worry too much and don’t find happiness within you, you won’t be happy.  So, work on the positivity, the happiness, the kindness.  Focus on your goals.  Smile at others.  Your life will change for the better.





If there is something that I don’t have, it’s confidence.  Whether my lack of this attribute comes from never measuring up when I was a child, or from just simply never thinking I was all that, if there is one thing that I, and many other people lack, it’s confidence.

There are many times that a lack of confidence is simply ridiculous.  From feeling that I can’t figure out a new recipe to being unsure of how to get somewhere that I’ve been before, it doesn’t take much to shake my confidence in myself.  While I realize that one of the reasons for a lack of confidence is the simple fact that we tend to remember when someone else said something negative to us as opposed to remembering the positive things (yes, this is an actual thing, and it just goes to show you how ingrained negativity can be), it can still be a hard thing to overcome.


Before you let yourself get stymied by your lack of confidence, try to think of a few things.  Have you done whatever it is before, and if so, how did it go?  Did you live through it?  Good, if you’re here then you obviously did.  What could go wrong, and if that does go wrong what can you do to fix it?  Lots of times if you look at the possible negatives, you realize that there are solutions, and/or that the negative is a silly possibility that probably won’t happen.  Before GPS, I used to get lost almost every time I went somewhere new.  Even though I was nervous to go anywhere outside of my comfort zone, I realized that I could always stop and ask someone for directions!  And the best thing was that no one made fun of me, and everyone was always helpful.  See, my problem had a solution that worked every time.  I still deal with nerves every time I drive somewhere new, but it’s under control (thanks to GPS), but mostly because I make myself remember all the times the outcome was positive.


Once again, the solution to a negative is a positive.  Confidence is the same way.  Make yourself think of a situation where you were not confident but pushed through anyway, and you survived.  Confidence is a muscle that you have to use.  At the very least, learn the words to the song “I Have Confidence” from the musical “The Sound of Music”.  I use the refrain all the time myself.  Of course I don’t go around singing it out loud (not all the time, anyway), but repeating the words to yourself can do wonders.  So, go out and believe in yourself!




What is brain dump, and is it for You?

brain dump

I recently read about this method of de-cluttering your mind, called a brain dump.  It encourages you to write down any excess information you’ve been cluttering your mind with in order to leave your brain with more open space to fill with new information.  What is being suggested is that at the end of every day you spend ten minutes writing down all the “stuff” that is unnecessary, or extraneous information so that it’s not floating around in your brain.  If you can’t think of anything to write, just write “I can’t think of anything to write” until the dam opens and you can release the excessive build-up.


I actually think this is like writing down your problems, extraneous thoughts or emotions in your journal.  Once you get things out, you can either stop worrying about them, or come up with solutions to problems.  Or you can just get it out, and stop thinking about it. There are times when we spend way too much time thinking about something that is not really important, but because we’re thinking about that we aren’t as productive as we should be.

That’s what a “brain dump” is.  It’s a way to empty out the unnecessary, useless crap from our minds so that we can focus on the things that are important.  Personally, I just call this journaling, since that seems to do the trick for me.  However, a brain dump can be used to write down important information that you might need later (and perhaps for public use), while a journal is usually private.


However you want to accomplish this, you can decide.  Maybe both ways are good for you.  I do have a notebook where I will write things I might want to use later, and a separate journal for private things.  I do find that once I’ve written “stuff “down, I feel much more grounded in the now.  Let me know if you do some kind version of this in your life, and if it helps you.