I love this quote because it reminds me (and I do need reminding) that what is going on outside of me does not have to be reflected inside of me. There is chaos in the world, and there is a lot of anger and hurt and division right now. However, I can do what I can in order to change that by writing about it and by sending letters and signing petitions. But, if I want to live a life that is not full of stress and worry, I really need to put up boundaries and leave it all outside my mind.
It’s taken me a long time to realize that, and I longer I try to put the focus on what I can do, and what I can’t do the more peaceful I feel. No amount of brooding I do is going to change others. Focus on what you can do, change what you can, and make yourself the best you can be. Yes, be active with what you can do for the outside world, but don’t make yourself crazy by letting that be your only focus. You can’t change the world, but you can influence and change your life. Work on that, and hopefully your change will ripple outward and touch the rest of your world.
I am simply tired. In fact, I’m sick and tired. I’m tired of signing petitions. I sign on average, ten petitions a day, and sometimes more. I sign petitions telling my congressmen to: protect the earth, protect the poor, protect the sick, protect minorities; protect those who have been impacted by the weather; protect workers and consumers; protect people and the animals. The number of petitions I’ve signed just since January numbers well into the hundreds. I’m tired of being upset, depressed and overwhelmed with bad news and bad behavior on the part of people who should know better.
My question is, why the hell do I even have to do this? Doesn’t it simply stand to reason that people have a right to clean water, clean air? Don’t we have a right to healthcare? How about a right to equality? How about a right to not be lied to and mislead by the companies that we do business with? How about just helping the citizens of our country when disaster strikes? Isn’t that what their taxes have paid for? Why do I have to keep reminding the government what their job is? Their job is not to enrich themselves and their corporate donors. They are supposed to be working for the good of all, not just the rich and powerful.
Of course, I’m lucky. I’m not sick, I’m not a minority. While I do have Fibromyalgia, I don’t take medication for it, I’m coping on my own, and doing okay. I’m not a victim of a disaster. Of course, that could change at any time, and many of us are one paycheck away from financial disasters, not to mention one caused by sickness, accidents or nature. I actually live in a state that, while we have our problems within our state; our federal representatives do vote on the behalf of the people who actually voted for them. I feel sorry for those of you who don’t enjoy the same representation. Of course, the “powers that be” are hoping that we will all get too sick and tired and simply stop paying attention. Hell no, it’s not going to happen. While I may bury my head in the sand for a day or even two, I’ll pick myself up again and make my voice heard. For all of you out there who also are tired, take a breath, take a small break, and then continue plodding. After all, you’ve got justice on your side.
The recent events in this country have shown how divided we are as a community. There is no place for hatred here. On one side there is hatred, and on the other there is love for all. There is no choice since love is the only choice.
Let’s stop this by showing our love, building up our inclusive society and pushing back against hate. We are one.
There are many many things that I would like to change about the world, my country, my state and my town. However, most of what I’d like to change is completely out of my hands. (I also don’t have the many millions of dollars that it would take to implement any of the changes that I’d like to see, either.) So, I’m stuck with how can I go about making any kind of difference.
After much thought, sadness and despair, I realized that I can’t make a huge difference in the world by myself. That was a terrible realization, and I’ve had to deal with the depression that brought on. However, I also realized that I can change myself, my corner of the world, and maybe bring some sunshine to others by bringing kindness to my part of the world.
So, what am I doing? I’m trying to be kind. If a clerk is rude, I try to respond by being nice; when I say “Have a good day.” I mean it. I want the best for other people. I compliment others on something that I find pleasing about them. Do they have nice hair? Is their shirt a pretty color? The other day I told a man in the parking lot that he looked fabulous. He did. He was wearing a beautiful pink oxford shirt with a nice blue tie; black pants and fancy shoes. By the surprised smile I got in return, I think I really added to the pleasure of his day. It didn’t cost me anything, and I felt good, too. Did this make a huge difference in the world? Probably not, but it made a difference in his day; and mine, come to think of it. This is what the whole “pay it forward” thing is without the money.
Consider kindness in your day. How often are you kind? What can you do to lift others up? We can’t change the whole world, but maybe, just maybe, we can make a difference to the people we meet.