As you know, I’ve been rising early in order to work-out. Sometimes that means that I’m up at 4:30 a.m. since I’ve been doing most of my walking in the morning, in my basement with Denise Austin. Why you may ask? Well, our heat index has been 105° on more than one occasion. So, the other day, I was minding my own business when I was informed by a family member that the very fact that I work-out is extremely selfish of me. I was taking time and doing something for myself that should be spent doing something (anything) for the family.
There was something so shocking about this statement that I was at a loss for words. After reflection on this I wonder, what should I be doing at 4:30 am? Vacuuming? Washing the floors? Dusting? The fact of the matter is, if I wasn’t working out, I’d be sleeping. But, how come all my time is supposed to be “for the family”? Aren’t we all adults here?
The definition of selfish is to be concerned exclusively with oneself, to the detriment of others. I seriously do not think that making extra time in my day to exercise has anything to do with the detriment of other family members. I still do everything that I was doing before I started working out every day, so this statement is patently untrue. However, the purpose of his saying this was deliberately to undermine what I was doing. I have seen positive changes this year, and that is what is bothering some people in my immediate family, not just this one individual. When you start to change your life, some people may see this as a negative directed at them. For their own reasons, they were happy with the status quo and now you’ve gone and changed yourself in certain ways. This can be a problem, but remember, if you are changing yourself for your own reasons, they don’t get to say what you should or shouldn’t do. (As long as what you’re doing involves only you). So, self-care is not selfish.