There are many reasons why people don’t manage to attain their goals. Some people simply lose interest, others change their goals, but some of us may have self-esteem issues that make it difficult for us to reach the goals we set for ourselves. Of course, when this happens, what little self-esteem we do have takes a hit, and attaining any goals we set then becomes that much more difficult.
Sometimes when we have low self-esteem we can either set goals that are too high, (perfection anyone?) or too low. Setting the bar too low doesn’t really help with improving self-esteem since we denigrate whatever it is that we attained. On the other hand, perfection never helped anyone ever. I can get caught up in the perfection issue way too easily. As a matter of fact, I’ve managed to sabotage myself nearly every time I’ve decided to start working out by insisting on getting up every morning at a certain time – no exceptions. As a matter of fact, I really think that the only reason I’m still working out this time is because I allow myself to “sleep in” (if 6:00 am can be considered sleeping in). By allowing myself an extra hour or hour-and-a-half of sleep once or twice a week, I’ve taken the perfection out of the mix. And, I’m still getting up and working out. Take that perfection!
So, when you start your goal setting process ask yourself if your goal is based on perfection. If it is, change that goal. If it’s a goal that’s way too low, ask yourself if you want to keep it, attain it and then make the goal a little harder, or do you want to just set a slightly harder goal. Being able to attain part one of a goal and then commit to part two may give you the self-esteem boost that you want. By attaining goals, we improve our self-esteem, and that is a good thing! I’ve left an interesting link for you to read below.