Because I have a negative person in my life that I can’t run away from, I’ve started saying affirmations in earnest. This person has really eroded my sense of self-worth to a dangerous level. At this time, the only way that I can “fight back” is to say affirmations several times a day. By working on myself, I hope to dilute the effect that his words have on me.
So, since I like to research things I thought that I’d find out if affirmations really do work, and if so how they work. Anything to boost my belief system, right? It turns out that affirmations help how we feel about ourselves on a subconscious level. That subconscious level is where our belief systems “live”, if you will. If we can change those beliefs, we can affect our thoughts about ourselves, and in turn affect our lives.
Another important thing about affirmations is that they must be said in the “I”, and in the present. One of my affirmations is “I am a worthy person.” As you can see, it’s said both in the “I”, and also in the present. Another important thing is that the affirmation must be positive. No negative thinking, as that it what you are trying to change. There is another way to making the affirmation work. If you use an emotional word as part of your affirmation, this will help make the change that you want to make. My parents often told me that I was “worthless”, so affirming that I have worth is an emotional statement for me.
One of the most important things about saying affirmations is that you should say them at various times throughout the day. I say mine five times, five times a day. I also say them a few times while I’m lying in bed trying to go to sleep at night. I have kept my list of affirmations to just five. By keeping the number of affirmations short, I don’t feel like I’m spending too much time saying them. For me this number seems to be just about right.
Do you use affirmations? Have you found that they’ve helped you? Let me know in the comments below.