I get LifeHack Daily in my in-box every day. Usually there is at least one article in there that I find applicable to my life. Anyway, I wanted to share an interesting idea with you today from the great Tony Robbins. What you focus on is where your energy goes. So, if I focus on how difficult something is, or how I just can’t do something because it’s too hard, or time consuming, that’s where my energy is going to go. Not to actually doing that thing.
What a simple idea, but one that has been affecting me negatively lately. I had a goal every week this year, of writing for one hour daily. However, this is one goal that I haven’t met on a daily basis. Why? I’ve always wanted to write, but now that I’ve given myself “permission” to write, I find that I’m focused on doing it right. Is there even a wrong way to write? I find that I get fixated on finding the perfect pen or pencil to write with; then, the proper piece of paper. Good god if I want to write in a notebook – then the problem becomes which notebook to write in. I can’t write in this one or that one, since those notebooks are too good for whatever drivel I’ll write in there. So, you can see my problem. I’m focused only on the mechanics of the thing, and not the thing itself.
Once I started thinking about that, I realized that this misdirection of focus basically affects my whole life. I don’t like something that someone else does, and instead of focusing on myself, or what I want to do, I think about this thing that I can’t control instead. What a great way to not get anything I want to get done, done.
Is this something that we all do? Is this just a way for me to get in my own way, and not follow through on my heart’s desire? What am I getting from it? Since I can effectively keep myself from writing, is this just a ploy to make sure that I can’t fail? After all, you can’t fail, if you don’t try. And, would failure ruin my life? How many times have I failed at something? Well, that would probably take a long time to figure out. Failure is a much more probable result to doing something new than success is. For example, the first time I picked up my flute and played that was a resounding failure. But, I didn’t stop. Nerdy me thought that being in band would be “cool”, so I kept on practicing and eventually was first chair. So, a success that started as a failure.
So, now that I understand what’s stopping me, I need to re-focus and send my energy into accomplishing my goals. What about you?